Aibu to complain about competitive misery?

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Having young children is challenging, obviously. I have two 18m and 6m so obviously life has its challenges. Having a supportive friendship group is amazing and it's great we can all offload but a 90m bitch session about our toddlers in front of our toddlers... ds1 has more than 50 signs and responds to conversations I'm having with DH so I know he understands loosely some things we discuss. Surely toddlers will paddy and wake early and refuse food and be frustrating but aibu to feel so uncomfortable about a small group of women spending their whole time complaining? I'm no saint but it's kind of upset me

I think it's because they are with the only people who understand so the only people they can offload to. I had 3 under 3.5 at one point and that can really be a lifeline.

I do know what you mean though. I find it a lot more enjoyable being a mum now mine are a tiny bit older and so sometimes the endless negativity at these groups can get you down... I just try and think they need this more than I do right now iykwim?

You're probably right but I'm of the mindset that positivity breeds positivity. Yes it's good to offload about the realities but incessantly?

I'm probably one of those annoying mums. I feel my 6mo sleeps well. He feeds about 4 times a night but settles very quickly. I think that's great and he's doing well but my brother thinks it's hideous. I think my 18mo eats well but some days he only fancies oranges (or some other random item) and everything else gets thrown on the floor. I still think he's a good eater.

Maybe I AM the annoying one

YANBU

Have kids

Spend the next decade and a half whining about them

I don’t get it either.

YABU for complaining about other people complaining. If you don’t enjoy the discussions go to another group.

Yanbu. It gets on my nerves at work, especially when it happens in front of colleagues who are having fertility issues. It must be heartbreaking for them to have to listen to it and not be able to escape. I do get that everything in life has its frustrations, and we all need to vent sometimes, but I do wish they'd be a bit more thoughtful about it.