To wish it was time to have a baby?

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Right, now I know I'm bonkers but that's why I've come to Mumsnet.

I'll try and give you the short version. Me and DH have been together a while and we decided early on that we'd like a family. We're both young(ish) so there's no rush.

We had a MC almost 4 years ago that was devastating and I went on a bit of a downward spiral. Put on a lot of weight and AF cleared off for years.

I've lost a wee chunk of weight and AF came back. We conceived naturally last time and I hope that we'll be as lucky this time BUT we have both just started or are about to start new jobs and it would be nice to clear the credit card top so I know now is not the time but every time I see a baby I wish it was me.

So basically AIBU to want a baby right now even although I know IABU to want a baby right now? I need help.

Not unreasonable at all and I remember the feeling well. You are doing your future kids a great service building them a secure future first

Thank you, I didn't have a financially secure childhood (although I wouldn't change it for the world) I think that's why it's so important to us.

YANBU but speaking as someone who had a baby young when I wasn't financially secure (and I'm still not now) you'd be doing the sensible thing to wait.

Thanks @BitchQueen90 I know it's the sensible thing to do but sometimes my heart is louder than my head.

Do you mind me asking how old you are?

As someone who turned infertile overnight (very long story) I would say you can always get more money but you’ll never get more time.

I am a firm believer in following your gut instinct.

OP get rid of your debt and at the same time concentrate on being as healthy as possible e.g. keeping weight down, eating properly, exercising regularly before trying to conceive.

Your future children will thank you for it.

Agree with fruit

Have seen many friends leave it too late and encounter issues. It's heartbreaking.

@SpongeBobGrannyPants I'm 25

Ok, so yeah still pretty young then. I'd probably say crack on if you were 30+ though. There will be loads of women who'll tell you they fell pregnant easily and quickly each time with trouble free term pregnancies, but if I've learned anything myself in my thirties it's that there are just as many women who have difficulties. There's not really a way of telling until you start trying though.

@SpongeBobGrannyPants I know what you mean. Most people I know have had good pregnancies, I was only 21 when I had my MC so I won't be leaving it too late. We think we'll start trying about a year from now. We think that gives us time to have our ducks in a row and also time if we do end up needing any help.

Best of luck when the time comes. Sounds sensible.

Girl, you're already a good mum ! You're doing what's best for your child !