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To have a little cry about my dd leaving primary?

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ScarlettDarling · 20/07/2018 18:22

Well, I've done my last ever school run and pick up. I've sat in my last primary school assembly. Said a very sad goodbye to our fabulous childminder. Can't help but feel a bit sad that this stage in our lives is over. My daughter is a bit emotional about it all too, so infront of her I'm all smiles and positivity, but when she goes to bed tonight I might have a little cry. Anyone else?

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chocolateworshipper · 20/07/2018 18:27

I'm many years beyond that - but no, of course YANBU. It's sign that they're growing up, and always reasonable to feel a bit emotional about big changes. Obviously if you post in 6 weeks time that you're still an emotional wreck, then that's a different story Wink but a little cry tonight? You most certainly won't be the only Mum doing that.

tealandteal · 20/07/2018 18:27

YADNBU I had a little teary moment when my friend said about her DD leaving primary school, I was thinking about when it will be my DS leaving. He is yet to turn 1 Grin

kitkatsky · 20/07/2018 18:28

Aww @ScarlettDarling I'd feel exactly the same. It's lovely and horrible watching them growing up!

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ScarlettDarling · 20/07/2018 18:33

Thanks all. Can't believe how quickly these years have gone by Sad

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NachoCheese22 · 20/07/2018 18:35

I'm in the same situation. My youngest DD has just left the most wonderful primary school. She's going to a good secondary school with many friends, but I can't help feeling so sad that she's growing up even though she is completely ready for it. I know this sounds ridiculous but I live very close to the primary school so at least I can drive past it regularly and remember it fondly for giving both of my children a fantastic start to school life. So i guess its onwards and upwards as my DH says.

FaFoutis · 20/07/2018 18:35

The fact that my son got through primary school without being bullied, had lovely friends and nice teachers is a cause for celebration. I'm not very sad. I think it's different if it is your first or last child. My middle one is leaving primary and I'm all blasé; I wept with my mouth open (in private) when it was my first child.

Witchend · 20/07/2018 18:40

My last one has finished. I'm celebrating having only one school run after 9 years of 2+.

ApolloandDaphne · 20/07/2018 18:44

My baby is going into her final year at uni. UNI?? How is that even possible. It wasn't long ago that she went off for her first day at primary school. I shall weep buckets at her graduation. She will not be impressed!

topcat2014 · 20/07/2018 18:45

My DD finished today, and is ready for it.

We are also going through the adoption process, so don't know whether or if we are likely to go to primary schools again or not - which is a bit weird.

No tears though, as we are off on holiday tomorrow :)

Armchairanarchist · 20/07/2018 18:46

I cried. I've had eighteen years of school runs to the same primary come to an end today and I also attended the same school over 30 years ago. It feels like the end of an era.

AugustRose · 20/07/2018 18:50

My third DC left primary today and had her leavers assembly this morning, it was very emotional as she and her friends were crying. She has had a fantastic time and primary school and is finding the thought of secondary very daunting. Cry away, even DH said he had to hold it together.

I have one left to go, he's just going into Year 3 but I will be very emotional when he finishes. My oldest is 21 and we worked out that by the time DC4 leaves Secondary I'll have done 29 consecutive years of school runs/performances etc Shock

welshmist · 20/07/2018 18:52

I will have had 35 years of school runs next year when the youngest finally leaves school. I still cried when they left primary and when they went off to uni. I shall be kidnapping my grandchildren more often I suspect. OH on the other hand cannot wait Grin

MadisonAvenue · 20/07/2018 18:52

YANBU, really really you are not.

My youngest, he's now 18, and myself walked the half hour home on his last day and I thought he was fine, he was happy and chatty, and I was doing a decent job of holding it together but the minute we stepped into the house and shut the door he threw his arms around me and started sobbing which then set me off.
The school made them all a DVD of special moments that they'd had in their time there and used Bruno Mars Just The Way You Are as the background track and even now I feel emotional when I hear that song.

Ohmylord59789234 · 20/07/2018 18:53

Yanbu
I cried when my youngest finished primary, it’s a big part of your life for so many years and they are growing up and moving on
But.... the first day of secondary school I was so pleased, a lie in and no school run, every cloud has a silver lining :)

MarieMorgan · 20/07/2018 18:56

My ds left primary today and is our last of 3. Cried this morning at leavers assembly then got call this afternoon from my eldest to say my first grandchild born today. So all in all a very emotional but lovely day!

bionicnemonic · 20/07/2018 18:57

DS finished his GCSE's a few weeks ago and I fell into the doldrums! All these milestones and I just want to hit pause and savour it all a little longer. Big hugs to you all Flowers

PuppyMonkey · 20/07/2018 18:57

Yanbu - my DD left her tiny little primary (with just 60 pupils) yesterday and we blubbed a lot.

Been singing “Slipping through my fingers” all day today. Sad

Tanith · 20/07/2018 18:59

You’ll be in good company, I think. The Y6 girls at DD’s primary were absolutely sodden this afternoon!

So was DD, though she’s younger, but her friend is emigrating.
I suggested she might like to exchange addresses and they could become penpals and write to each other.
“Or we could text!” DD piped up.
Clearly I’m behind the times! BlushGrin

HattieAndHerBoy · 20/07/2018 19:03

first was grandchild born today

Congratulations Marie. A whole new world of wonderful things await you. ❤️

Oh and you’ll soon be back on a school run. 😜

RiverTam · 20/07/2018 19:05

Armchair maybe your grandchildren will end up at the same school and you’ll be back there picking up!

DD is only year 3 and I know I shall weep like a waterspout when she leaves her primary.

StuckSoutherner · 20/07/2018 19:09

Of course you're not being unreasonable, I've just blubber my way through last day in reception class I'll need tranquillisers to get through last day at primary, well done for keeping it positive!

HalleLouja · 20/07/2018 19:14

One more year to go and I am already planning to bulk buy tissues and wear the largest shades possible. Even if it’s raining.

Leesa65 · 20/07/2018 19:25

Not BU at all .

Have your cry OP , I certainly did .

Its a big milestone and they are leaving friends behind (in some cases if different secondary schools), teachers (whether liked or not), and years of memories . It is emotional. Flowers Wine

Nodancingshoes · 20/07/2018 19:29

Yanbu... I had a quiet little cry when my ds1 finished primary last year and he sobbed 😢 It was short lived tho and he has really enjoyed his first year of secondary. 3 years of school runs left now with ds2

Blushah · 20/07/2018 19:31

I'm welling up recalling my DC1's Y6 leaving assembly.

"One more step into the world we go". If you don't know the song, youtube it, with a hanky ready.

He's 19 now and off to uni in Sept!

....Thankfully for me only 25 miles away. He has grown chillies for the past 2 years, from seed (with my help!). DH makes them into chillie sauce which DS helps with and DH's work colleagues fall over. It's become 'a thing' that we do.

A couple of months ago, I said to DS as I was heading out 'Don't forget to water your chillies', to which he said 'Well, they're not really mine any more, are they, as I'll be gone by the time you harvest them'...