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AIBU - friends making me feel like I prude because I hate cheating!

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mmmgoats · 20/07/2018 12:03

I have a group (3-4) of new ish close friends, I've posted about them before, they helped me through a really tough time after a loss at 20 weeks.

But recently they've been making fun of me [in a playful way] because I'm the only one in the group who has never cheated on a partner or never had a fling/relationship with someone who already has a partner. They make out like I'm so naive and innocent and that it's 'sweet' that I was really shocked by this (That I'm the only one).

Don't get me wrong, I'm not being all superior about it, their actions are their choice but the fact they keep bringing it up in an almost mocking way to me is getting me down. Added to the fact I absolutely abhor cheating, it's really souring these new friendships for me.

I'm not saying they're having affairs etc now, this is stuff in the past, but they bring it up and seem to try and outdo each other with their experiences and it's just something I'm not interested in talking about in that way. When they've asked me and I've said I haven't done anything like that, really hate cheating etc, that's when they all start ribbing me and saying I'm like their little moral compass, but in quite a sarcastic way if you know what I mean? That I need to properly live and I'm oh so sheltered.

Maybe I'm just being over sensitive, but would this bother you?

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SaltyPeanut · 20/07/2018 13:47

Maybe they feel the need to bring you down because by holding your position on cheating as you do, you are holding up a mirror to their own behaviour and it makes them feel bad about themselves and their past dirty deeds.

gunnyBear · 20/07/2018 13:52

I judge people by the company they keep. You can and should do better.

leafygreens211 · 20/07/2018 13:54

I would just laugh everytime they say it and say something along the lines of, haven’t needed to as me and DP have a magnificent sex life Grin

ImAIdoot · 20/07/2018 13:59

I wouldn't be talking about DP being magnificent in bed in front of these people! Grin

leafygreens211 · 20/07/2018 14:01

Haha @ImAIdoot that is a very good point!

Mishappening · 20/07/2018 14:07

It does seem a waste of your very precious life to be spending time with these "friends." Get rid and get on with your life.

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