Inappropriate language in the office

[NuttyMacaroon]

to want my line manager not to punctuate his sentences with "fuckin" this and "fuckin" that and drop the c-bomb into his conversations quite casually. His boss made a joke via email regarding something to do with "muff" and then apologised to female staff with the reasoning that it was meant to be a private conversation (basically just to the male members of staff), to which my line manager thought it hilarious to point out that it would be ok if he had used the correct terminology ie vagina. (I should have corrected him to "vulva" but fear that would only make things worse 🙄). Ffs, I've been here 2 weeks, am already looking at other jobs online. Am I being precious or is this normal workplace behaviour? I am not normally easily offended, this is just wearing really thin

You’re not being precious about the swearing at all. I personally wouldn’t want to be found swearing all the time (personally I find it rude and distasteful). The sexist comments are also OOO.

Good luck with your application

Seems like you’re easily offended in my opinion.

I disagree completely. In 20 years of working in offices in a make dominated industry I’ve never ever worked in a company where any of that would be acceptable. Swearing in the pub is fine, swearing at work is not.

Small company, no HR

^^ This is your problem.

I’d leave ASAP. The problems are only going to get worse.

My workplace is very similar although no one minds we all have a real laugh

Swearing in the office is fine. Research has shown that offices where foul language is bandied about are usually more productive and less prone to stress-related illnesses than where it is banned.

I'm not talking about just run of the mill swearing. It's excessive and each sentence will have several "fuckin"s in it. I bit like my teenage son with his "like" sentence punctuation. I have even seen an email where a customer was referred to as a c*nt. I can't even type the word, so yes I might be a bit prudish when it comes to that. But I don't expect to be hearing/reading it in the workplace!

Thanks to the well wishers re the job application. Fingers crossed. I will be applying for more as and when I find them! Anything has to be better than this environment. I feel sorry for the 20 year old lass who started here on Monday. They haven't filtered anything out for her newbie ears!

The young lads I mentioned previously has quit. Good for her!

Lass not lads

Does your workplace have a Dignity and Respect at Work policy and a complaints procedure?

The swearing wouldn’t bother me.

The misogyny absolutely would.

eh, for me, i wouldn't mind it. I worked for a corporate company that was very professional but treated me like crap when i was going through the most traumatic event of my life, so i went back to a previous job filled with people that swear etc and they treated me a lot more fairly and warmly.
i tend to find the people who are loud and proud of their language are more compassionate in times of need, and the 'prudes' who shiver at the smallest swear word are usually the coldest.

This is just my personal experience though. Give me a loud sweary environment any day lol!

If adults can't control their swearing at work, that's pathetic!
It's unprofessional.
I swear but there are people I don't swear in front of.
People's saying you are being precious are being ridiculous.
I worked in construction for many years and yes, I had to hear bad language from the Labourers but in the office it was not allowed.
My daughter works in Sales and has the same to put up with as you OP... Sexism, bad language....It's not ok.

@Query1 - I’ve got a real potty mouth and use swear words in general conversation regularly without even realising it but it doesn’t offend people as they are aware that it’s not meant to offend.

It may not offend (although I expect it offends some people who don't mention it) but it is completely inappropriate in certain circumstances. I can (and do) swear with the best of them but I know when to rein it in. I adapt my behaviour to the circumstances, which is the professional way to behave.

They may have a policy written down somewhere, I'm not sure. Certainly don't work to it and it wasn't in my contract pack.

I think the comment that sent the poor girl over the edge was when, in staff meeting (with top boss there), someone mentioned that they had seen a girl with a very short skirt. Chief misogynist pipes up with "could you see hanging gammon?" Why this was deemed an appropriate conversation for a staff meeting in the first place, I have no idea, but the boss just shook his head laughing, apologised to "the ladies" whilst laughing and saying he is normally much worse than this. 😡