PICK UP YOUR SHIT

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I got the kids up, got them breakfast etc, all DH had to do was get himself ready for work.
Once the kids have eaten and he’s out the door, we head upstairs to get washed and dressed.....to find this on the floor.
Twat.
For a guy who has to be totally organised, well turned out and on the ball at work, he really does drop said ball as soon as he steps through the door.
Am I being a dick for being annoyed?
Or am I right in thinking it’s not a big ask to put your clothes in the fucking laundry basket?!!???

Yanbu and it's soooooooo annoying however I have no advice as mine is the same

I just know that if I voice my annoyance, I’ll be the unreasonable dickhead

If it's not in the washing basket, it is not washed. Hard and fast rule from day 1 of living together. I'm not a maid.

How long would it be there if you did nothing?

Just leave it where it is..

put it in the bin

horton Christ knows....he’s or a block of leave soon so I’m tempted to go on strike.
He’s just spent 8 weeks away, so I’m thinking of having a weeks strike myself to see how he copes with the house and both kids single handedly

YANBU. DH does this & it drives me mad.

Leave it and anything else he adds to it.

He's clearly made his decision about your respective positions and levels of importance in this relations.

Dropping his dirty clothes on the floor and expecting the shit fairy to pick them up, wash, and return them? Bloody disrespectful.

I’ve got PMS at the moment so I’m irrationally angry at everything today 😂
I came down this morning to the living room littered with empty chocolate bags, wrappers, a plate with dried on spaghetti bolognaise, a baking tray with potato smiles and tobacco strewn over the carpet. DSD is still in bed so I’m going to take it all upstairs and place it outside her door. Can you do the same with your DHs shite? Petty, I know 😂

Leave it exactly where it is . It is not your job to pick up his shit.

With my ex I ended up putting everything he left lying around in a black bag. I told him he had two days to move it. After that, I just binned the lot. I don't want to live in other people's crap.

I wouldn't have allowed that from my kids. If it wasn't in the washing basket it didn't get washed.
They had to tidy their own stuff so other things they left on the floor for a long time was thrown in the shed if I had to move them for any reason.

Who was the washing fairy while he was away ?

We also have a 'not in the basket not washed' rule, though OH does his own. With DS I also confiscate electronics if I got into his room an there is stuff on the floor. Like last night. So today there was a full wash basket form DS

With my exh we had an ongoing argument about taking his coffee mugs from the living room to the kitchen.

Apparently, I was completely unreasonable about it as it was 'only one mug' so why was I making a fuss about taking it into the kitchen; yes, one mug every time he had a cup of coffee, which I would have made for him and probably handed to him.

Meant to add, nip this sort of behaviour in the bud now. It'll only get worse.

My husband is exactly the same when it comes to laundry OP. He is very able, organised and professional at work but home is a completely different matter. I’m sick and tired of nagging him, it makes me feel crap. He’s apologetic and always clears up when I ask, but I don’t want to have to bloody ask every time! Arghhhhhhhhh

Are we married to the same man OP ? Does your DH too have a pile he lives out of?

Is it on the bedroom floor?

Pam that’s exactly it.
If I mention it, he will pick it up.....but why should I have to ask?!!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I hear you....am off to screenshot my example of this from last week....

Here is is..

Posted way too soon!

DH has a box in the kitchen in a corner where it doesn't irritate me too much. Anything non clothing goes in there, once the box is overflowing, I tell him to empty it. Failing that, I add it to his pile next to the bed. I add clothes to his pile too.

I figure eventually, he'll get bored of tripping over the mountain during the night and sort it out.

I've never done my husband's washing for exactly this reason - he just dumps stuff all over the place and leaves huge piles of stuff that you can't tell is clean or dirty. Decided when we first moved in together that this was never going to be my problem, and stuck to it! I'll kick it under the bed if it encroaches on the room, but otherwise I don't touch it.

His nan was always horrified that I didn't iron him a fresh shirt each night

My son was the same. He was given a week to change his ways. He didn't. He's now been responsible for his own laundry for 5 years. He's 19.

He will only be able to get away with what you let him get away with.

For a guy who has to be totally organised, well turned out and on the ball at work, he really does drop said ball as soon as he steps through the door.
Maybe like 'all plumbers have leaky taps'?

Will he pick it up if you don't? If he moves it later or the next day or so, then it wouldn't worry me.

Is he really expecting you to pick them up, or is he not really worried about a little bit of mess? His thinking would determine my attitude to it.