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This isn’t normal right? Pregnancy tiredness

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 06:21

Currently 15 weeks with twins. HG. Had three miscarriages and one child before this.

I remember being tired in my first pregnancy but this isn’t tiredness, it’s awful. I can barely get out of bed. I can’t even walk to the shower without feeling exhausted and sometimes fainting. I can’t do anything that requires movement. I felt better the other day and went for a short walk and it had me back on the sofa for hours.

I know I’m supposed to feel tired, but it isn’t supposed to be disabling? When I mention this it’s not been taken seriously and I’ve been told “everyone with twins is tired”.

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whathappenedtomyusername · 19/07/2018 06:22

Have you had your iron checked? You said you have HG? How is that being treated?

ellesbellesxxx · 19/07/2018 06:23

I have twins (congratulations!) and although I was tired, I wasn’t exhausted like you are describing. I would get checked out and bloods done x

PrivateDoor · 19/07/2018 06:25

Have you had any admissions for HG? If so then I would expect you would have had bloods done already. Are you keeping anything down? You need to see your GP urgently. It could be normal, twins and HG are exhausting and you already have another child too to run after by the sounds of it. But you need checked out to be sure. Iron levels, thyroid, electrolytes etc.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 06:34

I’ve got three anti emetics but they aren’t working, the only thing I can eat are Maryland cookies. Everything else comes back. My GP sent me to hospital after eight hours of solid vomiting and dark urine but the hospital said ketones weren’t showing so they sent me home. I’ve lost 5lbs so far.

I haven’t had bloods done either because I was late with my booking. I was under a specialist team for 12 weeks due to the previous miscarriages and I didn’t book my midwife referral until later due to not wanting to “jinx” anything (I know that’s stupid but before, I miscarried on my booking appointment). I have to have bloods done with a special needle because of trauma surrounding a misplaced cannula as a child and so the midwives refused to do it and told me my hospital will do it later.

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Canwejustrelaxnow · 19/07/2018 06:38

Sounds horrendous. Please get your bloods done asap.

lucy101101 · 19/07/2018 06:40

Also get your Vitamin D levels checked... I felt absolutely awful, in bed from lunchtime every day, in my last pregnancy. I ended up with a new consultant at 7.5 months who tested and found my levels very extremely lowe. Within a few days of a prescribed megadose I was a different person!

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 06:40

I was told they’d be done with my dating scan, which I haven’t had yet. I’m extremely anxious this pregnancy, even though I’m past 6-8 weeks which is when my losses occurred, I’m still worried and this is making it worse.

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whathappenedtomyusername · 19/07/2018 06:41

So you're very sick and aren't getting medical attention. Op if your doctor sent you to hospital then you need to be in hospital. Please go back to your gp or a different hospital. You need to be seen, and you need bloods taken ASAP.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 06:41

Also get your Vitamin D levels checked had these done befor pregnancy and was low so have been taking high strength OTC supplements. Was done as part of investigations into the miscarriage.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 06:43

So you're very sick and aren't getting medical attention. Op if your doctor sent you to hospital then you need to be in hospital.

I don’t drive and the only hospital I can get to is the one that turned me away. They are crap to be honest, I had my son there and had horrible treatment. I was told when I went in that they’re too busy to deal with me as I’m not severely dehydrated and to eat ice pops and it’ll go away. :/

With my son it didn’t go away until 25 weeks but I was able to eat more than this.

My GPs are also a bit rubbish but I’m thinking of asking them to do a blood test maybe, I’d have more luck there?

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Leliana · 19/07/2018 07:09

There's a lot about your antenatal care which isn't normal, if this thread is accurate. As a twin pregnancy, you should have been scanned by now - not only so you could have a dating scan (usually offered between 11 weeks and 13 weeks 6 days) and be offered testing for trisomies, but also because the obstetricians looking after you need to know the chorionicity of your pregnancy. This NICE guideline states that if you present to services at or after 14 weeks, you'll be scanned as soon as possible, as determining chorionicity becomes more difficult later:

www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg129/ifp/chapter/screening-and-tests

If this thread is an accurate representation of the truth, then you are being failed on a monumental scale and need to complain to the hospital and your midwife as soon as possible about the lack of scan and the fact you haven't been offered standard antenatal care for a twin pregnancy. The fact that you didn't see your midwife until after 12 weeks shouldn't have altered the fact that you should have been offered a scan as soon as you did present.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 07:12

As a twin pregnancy, you should have been scanned by now - not only so you could have a dating scan (usually offered between 11 weeks and 13 weeks 6 days) and be offered testing for trisomies, but also because the obstetricians looking after you need to know the chorionicity of your pregnancy

I’ve had scans through the early miscarriage unit I was under and know they’re dichorionic. My last scan was 11 weeks but they said that wasn’t a dating scan and haven’t given me a due date from it. It’s not that I haven’t had any scans at all.

We don’t want any trisomy tests anyway so that’s not a concern for us (we wouldn’t have the amniocentesis so there is no point), it just seems that the handover between the two teams has been poorly handled.

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whathappenedtomyusername · 19/07/2018 07:22

Op I'm sorry if I sounded like I was blaming you. What I meant was, you're in need of medical attention and no one is giving it to you. Your gp obviously thinks you need it.
Where is your partner? I think it's imperative that you are taken to a different hospital.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 07:26

Your gp obviously thinks you need it.
Where is your partner? I think it's imperative that you are taken to a different hospital.

Didn’t sound like you were blaming me don’t worry he’s here but he doesn’t drive either. We’ve both used public transport our entire lives so never really felt the need to, but it is a pain during times like this. He thinks it’s not right either.

My mother drives and I may ask if she could take me to another hospital, but she’s been looking after the toddler a lot for me as I’m hardly able to do anything and I feel like I’m putting on her.

I definitely think I need my bloods doing, I usually have lovely skin and I look grey and awfully pale.

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TheSheepofWallSt · 19/07/2018 07:30

@princess

You sound very passive.... and there’s a lot of maybes in your posts.

Think of this another way- this isn’t just about your health, it’s about the health of two children. Would you be so passive about getting the right treatment for your children after they’re born?! I’m guessing no- so please do get yourself to any medical professional - gp, local hospital, whatever, ASAP.

Branleuse · 19/07/2018 07:30

I was absolutely bone crunchingly exhausted for the first 4 months of pregnancy and i only had singletons.
Hard to say whats normal, but i would really make sure your food is nutritious, youre eating enough , drinking enough and taking supplements.

NameChangeCuddleBums · 19/07/2018 07:31

I had HG for my entire pregnancy and it is totally exhausting, you must be extra exhausted with twins. I echo other posters in saying get checked out by a hospital/GP surgery that you have faith in.

Congratulations!

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 07:32

It’s because I have an anxiety disorder and part of me always thinks I’m overreacting because of that. “It’s all in your head, everyone feels like this” type thoughts. I’ve been told the sickness won’t affect the babies and it’s just me who’ll feel crappy.

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Leliana · 19/07/2018 07:34

@princesspear That's odd - a pregnancy can normally be dated from a scan done at 11 weeks (as per the NICE guidance). When are they planning to do a dating scan and give you an EDD? It must make it difficult to plan your on going antenatal care without a scan-confirmed EDD.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 07:37

Leliana that’s what I thought, but the sonographer said they only do reassurance scans after bleeds or as part of the care for women who have previously miscarried. I’m assuming they aren’t experienced in checking for obvious anomalies or trisomy testing maybe? As I said that’s not a concern to us because we were going to refuse the screen anyway.

I’ve been told it’ll come through “quite soon” but I don’t know when. The booking appointment was a bit lacking, she was more interested in filling the form than actually listening to us. My partner was very disappointed and felt that no one cared. We had specifi questions about twin pregnancy and they didn’t know the answer because “we don’t see many here”.

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spugzbunny · 19/07/2018 07:43

It sounds a lot like your anxiety is stopping you from getting the care you need right now. You aren't overreacting, please book a doctors appointment ASAP and explain all of this. If you have a midwife number to call, please cal that as well and not instead of, I'm sure your babies are fine but you also need to take care of yourself.

whathappenedtomyusername · 19/07/2018 07:54

This is not your anxiety, with twins you should be getting extra care. Definitely ask your Mum to take you to another hospital. You shouldn't be fainting and not being able to eat anything is no good for you or babies.

Leliana · 19/07/2018 07:56

@princesspear As I said upthread, if the facts are as presented here, it sounds like your care is substandard, and if I were you I'd complain.

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PrincessPear · 19/07/2018 07:56

I’m ringing my GPs at 8 when they open, and seeing if I can get an emergency appointment. Feel awful today. Even getting up to pee is exhausting

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JackietheBackie · 19/07/2018 08:09

Oh this sounds just rubbish. If your midwife was to able to take the bloods herself then she should have ensured that there was a plan in place for you to have had them done.

I am glad you are calling up today, but I implore you to either complain to the hospital you are at or move elsewhere (or both). You should be under a high risk team for (a) twins, (b) 3 previous miscarriages AND (c) anxiety. Some tiredness is normal, but not to this extent!

I am sorry you are not getting the level of care that you need or deserve, and I hope that you can find the right person to help put this right for you. I would suggest PALS, the Consultant Midwife or PMA (if your hospital has one) or the Lead Midwife for Antental/
Community care).

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