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AIBU to mention this to the police?

14 replies

MurielsBottom · 18/07/2018 21:38

I had a prang in the car today. Another driver didn't see me and drove straight into the side of my car. She seemed completely oblivious to my car being right in front of hers.
Pulled over and went to exchange details after asking if she was ok as she seemed very shocked and couldn't talk. She got out the car eventually and I came over and looked at my car. She was trying to speak but not making any sound, nor moving her mouth well enough for me to lip read.

She wrote her details down for me although she seemed to struggle with that and it took a long time and I had to ask her to rewrite something as part of her writing was illegible. I asked her again if she was ok, she sort of nodded and went back to her car. I drove off first as I was now very late for school pick up.

DH suggested I should talk to the police because of the way the woman was. She just seemed really odd and actually I think she was maybe unwell. I am a little concerned for her and also whether she should be driving at the moment. ( Yes, I know, not really any of my business but it could easily have been a child she hit.)

I do have her address, she lives very close to me but I'm not convinced knocking on her door would be a good idea?

I don't know, just something about the whole incident left me uneasy and I would appreciate other's thoughts.

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surlycurly · 18/07/2018 21:40

I don't think there's any harm in mentioning it to the police. You will need an accident number anyway, so perhaps flag it up when you call them?

NewYearNewMe18 · 18/07/2018 21:40

I'd have called an ambulance - sounds like she was in shock

ProudThrilledHappy · 18/07/2018 21:42

She could have been in shock, which I think can be dangerous?
It may be worth bringing up with the police. Did you get her number or just the insurance?

ShawshanksRedemption · 18/07/2018 21:43

"You do not need to inform police if, at the time of the collision, you exchanged details with those involved. "
www.kent.police.uk/services/report-a-collision-online/

However OP if you are concerned you could contact your local PCSO and let them know so they could pop in just to check she is OK.

MurielsBottom · 18/07/2018 21:43

I have her car registration number and her name and address. She had driven off when I came back that way from school.

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NewYearNewMe18 · 18/07/2018 21:44

What would calling the police, now, achieve?

MurielsBottom · 18/07/2018 21:46

I am concerned for her New year, that's all really.

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MrsMoastyToasty · 18/07/2018 21:48

She might have been driving under the influence of illegal drugs.

bertielab · 18/07/2018 21:48

Could you have been drunk or on drugs? I would log it with the police to be honest. Without speaking to her it's difficult to judge. Could be a stroke, under illegal influence or shock. You can refer it on to the police as a welfare check,

Desmondo2016 · 18/07/2018 21:49

As a police officer I think they would be highly unlikely to do anything now. If, at the time, you felt she was unfit to drive or her ability to do so was impaired for some reason then you'd have been justified to call it in there and then to prevent her continuing to pose a risk to others.

jammydodger5 · 18/07/2018 22:19

Could she of just been in shock did she appear to be shaking?

MurielsBottom · 18/07/2018 22:25

No, she wasn't shaking, no alcohol smell, she moved and walked ok. Just didn't seem to connect with what I said to her. And also that she didn't appear to see me at all until after she had crashed into me.

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MurielsBottom · 19/07/2018 17:44

Just to update everyone. I emailed my local police station and they have asked the local officer to call on a concern for welfare.

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Witchend · 19/07/2018 18:07

I saw a prang where the chap was like that. When he did manage to speak he told us he was rushing to the hospital because they'd just called him to ask him to come quickly as his wife was likely to die in the next hour. Sad

When I'd got into work I called the hospital and gave the details I could as I wanted them to check him over as I thought he might be injured, but he refused to consider it as all his thought was on his wife. Sad

I think about him quite often.

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