Aibu re chicken pox?

[KindergartenKop]

Friend's dd1 came down with the pox this weekend. Friend also has dd2 who hasn't had it.
I was going to meet up with friend in 4 weeks. My dd2 hasn't had chicken pox and we will be going on holiday the week after the playdate. Aibu to cancel playdate?
For what it's worth I am aware this could be classed as ridiculous over planning.

When I say meet up with friend, I mean also with all the kids.

In 4 weeks you would know if her dd2 was contagious, had had cp or not. Make the playdate and review nearer the time.

I would cancel.
Of course you might be in contact with it elsewhere if it is going round. But why take the risk?
You wont be able to go on holiday if your child catches it.

My ds had chicken pox that went on for 3 weeks. It isnt always over and done with in 2.

I thought it had a 21 day incubation, so the dd2 could be coming down just as you visit... I assume this would ruin your holiday. I would cancel but I might make up a reason!!

Amazed you have play dates arranged so far in advance.
*completely misses point of the thread

I think the incubation can be up to 21 days but in my experience it tends to be closer to 7 (generally exactly 7).

DS was vaccinated and his entire nursery was infected a few weeks ago, including one family being stuck on holiday with a toddler who came down with chicken pox the day before they were due to go home...

I understand why the NHS doesn’t offer vaccination but for most people it would be much better!

I'd see if it develops. 4 weeks time I'd think the younger one would have already come out with it if they were going to catch it, and it's very likely they will. My eldest had been around it loads of times without catching it but once my youngest got it, that's when he finally caught it.

If I thought there was a chance of the child being contagious, I'd definitely cancel before a holiday.

Get your children vaccinated ASAP then you don't need to worry about any of this.

I did consider vaccination but I read it's not so effective as an adult. My Dd1 had it before dd2 was born so she's ok. I'm surprised dd2 has gone so long without catching it, she's nearly 4!

I got to 40 before I caught it.

I sort of wish he'd just get it over and done with.

Shingles a few months before pregnancy can't cause any immunity can it?

I would absolutely cancel. Thought ds has caught it 6 days before we went on holiday in June 😩 it turned out to be hand foot and mouth and was miraculously over and cleared in 5 days but I was devastated thinking my holiday was ruined. Considering getting him vaxxed now!

I did consider vaccination but I read it's not so effective as an adult.

Where did you read that? The CDC? NHS?

www.nhs.uk/conditions/vaccinations/chickenpox-vaccine/#how-effective-is-the-chickenpox-vaccine

It says that 3/4 of adults will be immune. Whereas actually getting the pox is more effective at giving you immunity. I thought it would be better to just let her get it as a toddler. Except she's fast becoming a child and the older she gets the nastier it'll be!

I think it means that if you get vaccinated as a teen or an adult, it is less effective and only three quarters will become immune. It is making the point that the vaccine is more effective if it is given on childhood. I got mine vaccinated. Chicken pox is mostly harmless, just annoying, but in my work I have seen brain damage and deafness resulting from severe cases. No brainer for me but I appreciate controversial for some.

You've misread it KindergartenKop.

As jynxx explains it's to do with when you receive the vaccine, not how long it lasts.

My ds came down with it 3weeks exactly after ds1 had it. Was just starting to think he must have had it mildly a few weeks prior to ds1 having it (forever having rashes) when ds2 came out in it. We had nearly 2weeks of staying away from everyone and it was hell.

Based on that, I’d say politely something’s come up and you need to rearrange. Wouldn’t want to be on holiday with that