Have I been too dismissive

[FramptonRose]

More of a what would you do but here it goes.
My eldest DD is in primary school about to go into year 6.
She is a happy child, quite sensitive and not really a leader, I would say more of a follower but can stand her ground when she absolutly needs to.

I know a lot of this is, end of term, tiredness etc but she has been very emotional and tearful this year. She keeps saying she feels like the odd one out at school, ie she is not one of confident ones, girly girl ones or sporty ones, although in saying that she does have a group of friends and is often invited to parties/sleepovers etc.
I have been trying to not make every argument they all have into a big deal, therefore have probably become a bit dismissive over the course of the year, telling her it will all be forgotten tomorrow etc but it seems it really has affected her.
I am trying to teach her that she cannot change the way others behave, believe me, I wouldn't have this opinion if she was being bullied but she gets upset and emotional if someone so much as looks at her sideways.

I have put her in lots of groups outside of school to try and get her to form other friendships outside of school so she can see school friends are not the be all and end all.
Is there such a thing as confidence building classes or similar for 10/11 year olds.
I am just really concerned she is going to walk into senior school and be eaten alive.

Confidence-building is such a difficult thing, especially when self-consciousness really strikes, as it seems to have for your daughter. And I don't really have an answer for you, but I do relate. It's hard when you see a great kid, a great person struggling with self-esteem.

What I do think though is that, although you might think that your confidence-boosting measures aren't working in the short term, they will have an impact in the longer term.

Otherwise, try to spend as much time with her as you can yourself to make it plain that she's a fantastic person so why wouldn't you want to spend time with her? Just you and her without younger siblings if you can.

I hope she benefits from the summer break.

Thank you pippistrelle.

I do think the Summer Break will be good for her.
I am really going to work on her confidence.
I do have two you get children and my youngest takes up a lot of my time so do need to really make time for just the two of us.

It's so hard! You would think they just all get on in primary school! I am dreading senior school!!!

She might very well find her place and her people at secondary school. A change can be a good thing. I know of quite a few children who've struggled a little bit at primary but who have blossomed at secondary. So, try not to worry about that.