To not want DPs family around my LOs?

[Gracie2906]

Long story short DP has a family member who is currently working for him who has alongside his wife had their children removed from their care.
This was some time ago, and it's been made clear the children will never be placed back in their care.
As a family we have no idea what led to this other than hearsay about the LO going to school with 'slap' marks on him?
I do know all contact they have is now supervised with their children and I also know that they ARENT deemed to be unable to be around any children; however, personally I don't like them around mine.

Issue comes as said family member is working for DP and consequently when they have an 'early finish' DP will allow him to come to our home to do some 'work' here as technically he's paying him so he may as well do something (DPs words!). When family member comes here to do work he also brings his wife 😡who I am then expected to entertain and to be quite honest at 26weeks pregnant I can't be arsed as well as the fact that I don't have much of a 'look' upon her.

DP thinks I'm being far too judgemental and as we don't know the facts we should ignore them so to speak; I see it very differently children aren't taken out of care of parents for no bloody reason!

I've asked DP to stop bringing/encouraging them to come here, and he says I'm making him chose between his family and us? It's not my intention to do so, I just don't like them here? Is it my issue or his? Please help!

I think there are 3 issues, the fact that they had their children taken off them and the fact they are in your house every day and you re expected to entertain the wife. Tell your husband visitors every day is too much.

I would nt mention the care proceedings just loss of privacy, do nt want to see them every day

I wouldn't like this. And there can't be much work getting done by anyone if they finish early a lot and his wife is sitting around with them too.

Are they ever alone with your kids?

The fact that they may have failed in parenting, doesn'tmean they are a danger to your kids.

If not, then I wouldn't worry so much. Your dh is right, you don't know the details and only know gossip. But it doesnt sound great.

How often are they round? Because I wouldn't be happy with visitors all the time, especially people who I don't get on with. But that's a separate issue.

Maybe you're right Northern - as a parent myself I find it so hard to see past the removal of children; that's what makes me not want to socialise with them more so I think?

No never left alone and DP doesn't believe they should ever be left alone with our children; most ironic thing is they make a huge effort to play with our children when they are here.

They were here yesterday afternoon and Sunday afternoon - never leave don't take the hint to go kinda thing! Yesterday I had a shit day spent my morning at antenatal where I was making idle chat to pass the time and when I got home I just wanted to be alone and not say anything, is that being rude?

No it's not rude to want to relax in your own home.

Your dh needs to stop bringing employees and their wives back to your personal space, if you aren't happy with it. Imo, that's the not to concentrate on.

Does the wife sit looking at your DH all day while her husband is working with him?

Yanbu

SS have been known to remove children from a family on no evidence due to "possible harm". There does not have to be any evidence of possible harm, SS just have to feel that there might be.

So, SS can - and do - remove children from their parents where no harm has taken place.

Interesting Chicken - surely then tho after investigation the children would be placed back into parents care if they were found not guilty of any wrong doing? Or not just incase something did happen?

No she's not interested in DP, she comes in the house to chat to me!