To have a guy over whilst baby is sleeping

[StrawberryJelly00]

So short story is... Father of my child left me and I'm moving on.
I've met someone I really like and I've been on quite a few dates... Trouble is both of us have kids and we are struggling to find times to meet.
Would it be unreasonable and would I be a crappy parent if I let the guy come over when little one is asleep upstairs?
I wouldn't allow him to go upstairs we would just stay downstairs, have a drink and chill for a few hours.... Evenings are usually the loneliest time for me so I would really enjoy that... But am I putting my own needs above that of my child?
I am not at the stage where I want to introduce my child to him.

Yes that's fine as long as you've checked he is who he says he is. Don't get too drunk.

A baby baby or a toddler who is capable of wandering down stairs?

It's fine as long as you remain in control and responsible for your child. Sorry to sound preachy.

I think that’s okay. How old is your little one? Even if they do come down, mummy has a friend over...no big deal

You don’t say how long you’ve known him but what if behaves unpredictabily? How do you get him out of your home? Does he already know where you live?

Presumably you aren’t going to be shagging on the sofa if there’s a chance your child could walk in.

Have you met any of his friends or family yet though? You say you have been on several dates so he’s not a complete stranger. But I honestly think you don’t really know anything until you have met someone who they know of that makes sense.

If you feel comfortable and safe though then why not. You would invite a female friend round to watch tv, chat, have a couple of drinks, so why not a male.

I wouldn't, you don't know him that well and a public date is very different to one at home.

It's fine to risk your own safety as that's your choice as an adult but your child doesn't have that luxury.

Oh for goodness sake, OP has said they have been on quite a few dates and are just struggling to find time. Whether it’s a baby or a toddler it is perfectly fine to have company in your own home! They are simply a friend to any child that might come across them!
OP you have fun and enjoy some company. I’m sure you are more than capable of having a date and keeping your child safe.

Totally fine, live your life, kid's asleep, there's no problem. Being a good mum doesn't mean sitting alone in front of the TV every night.

Course it's fine, enjoy your evening!