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Aibu to not wait to quit drinking?

18 replies

Lucyqucy · 17/07/2018 18:22

Ok, so advice please. This is mortifying. Have been a heavy social drinker since 18, moved from spirits to beer in an effort to keep it under control and only drink in the evenings. Recently realised that only way to combat it is to become abstinent. Registered with local drink quitting group only to find it looks like it'll be 2 months before I can do the medical detox. Was advised when registering not to quit without as my weekly total was 130 units Blush. Aibu not to wait? I want to stop now but apparently can be dangerous to just stop? Ironic as that may be...

OP posts:
woolythoughts · 17/07/2018 18:28

I used to drink a litre of gin a day. Stopped myself when I left my husband. I drank that for about three years.

Didn’t have a drink problem had a husband problem.

Point is it’s not necessarily dangerous.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 17/07/2018 18:29

How much do you honestly drink daily?

User467 · 17/07/2018 18:30

It can be dangerous if you go into withdrawal which you may well do with that level of intake. Perhaps reduce slightly in stages

Wittow · 17/07/2018 18:32

You need to taper off. If you stop suddenly after drinking at that level for a while you can fit. Do you drink daily? In the morning?

Have you been to AA? You'll need support to stay stopped.

ClumsyPickle · 17/07/2018 18:34

At that level (almost 20 units a day) it's highly likely that your body would react really badly to you just stopping, hence the medical detox. You can look to reduce by either drinking less of the same or switching to a lower percentage beer. Good luck! It's amazing you now want to make a change x

Canshopwillshop · 17/07/2018 18:34

I think you should take the advice you’ve been given but concentrate on trying to cut down in the next couple of months.

XiCi · 17/07/2018 18:34

It's can be really dangerous to just stop. Can you just start to cut down by a few units so you are slowly reducing your intake?

Ansumpasty · 17/07/2018 18:41

I’d listen to advice but massively cut down. Try and taper it, perhaps?

ValidUser · 17/07/2018 18:55

Doctor here. Stopping suddenly can cause seizures and severe anxiety.

Genuine congratulations for doing something.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 17/07/2018 18:56

Hi OP, I'm a member of AA and have been for 10 years. I'm not sure how much I was drinking prior to that but maybe two bottles of wine a day. When I decided to stop, the first couple of days were fine and I thought that it was easier than I'd thought it would be. On the third day the hallucinations began and I ended up having a seizure at work.

Because I was sober, nobody (including me) connected it to my drinking. I was terrified and assumed that I was losing my mind. From talking to a LOT of serious alcoholics, this reaction is rare - I've met two people who have similar stories out of many hundreds, some of whom were in two litres of gin a day and were just able to quit with no ill effects.

When I read George Best's autobiography, I think in the first chapter he says that he never experienced the full DTs (delirium tremens) and I thought "blimey, I'm worse than George Best!"

I have relapsed in the 10 years a couple of times Md the same thing has happened. So my advice would be to go to your GP and explain. They should be able to give you diazepam for a few days, generally no more than five, which should prevent seizures.

You can also "taper off" as you say, generally by halving quantities each day for a week, but that can be very difficult to do.

Very good luck with whatever you decide.

TroubledLichen · 17/07/2018 18:58

Well done for taking this first step! Can you make an appointment with your GP and discuss what would be safe with them?

Wishing you a smooth recovery.

Dollymouse · 17/07/2018 19:11

I’ve been in AA 13 years - I could not have stopped drinking without it. If you really want to stop today - do see a doctor and get advice.

Good luck xxxx

Lepetitpiggy · 17/07/2018 19:15

I stopped drinking nearly 6 years ago after a lifetime habit of far far too much. I simply woke up one morning having been a complete arse again and decided this had to be it. Luckily I had a week off (divine intervention?) so I literally stayed in or near bed all week, thinking I had flu or something -looking back it was clearly a withdrawal. I was fortunate really, but it worked and I have never looked back. I'd second seeing a doctor though as I probably shouldn't have done that. What I will say is my life is so much better than I ever thought it could be - and yours will be too. Good luck!!

Typhers · 17/07/2018 19:19

Best speaking to your doctor or AA, but best of luck to you.

Bottleup · 17/07/2018 19:45

Good luck. Best decision you'll ever make.

melse2964 · 17/07/2018 19:50

Thats great!!! I used to drink all sorts from vodka to brandy, whisky.. i suddenly reduced ..and i felt so much better for doin so...now i know my limit & kicked the habbits i had
gud luck!! xx

LanguidLobster · 17/07/2018 19:57

130 units is a lot - do you feel like you can taper down by yourself? It would be best if you can.

I want to see an alcohol counsellor (happening soon) as I'm behavioural about it, if I get stressed I buy a bottle of wine. I want to have healthier patterns.

You're not alone and best of luck :)

ichifanny · 17/07/2018 20:14

I’m a nurse who deals with acute alcohol withdrawal, I’d say on 130 units a week it’s likely you will withdraw quite dramatically and it can be dangerous for you including seizures and confusion and delirium , best to do with diazepam and medical supervision .

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