Aibu in thinking the average British person would be too selfish to send money abroad to family if they needed it.

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Just read a thread in money matters where the op met more vitriol over her Dp sending money abroad than rtb on a council flat.

Surely its a choice on what people, even those on low incomes spend their money on, if you want to forego drink or sky tv or nicer food or Netflix to help your family abroad, why the questioning? Why the disbelief?

So am I unreasonable to think the average British/English person would not help continually in this way as too selfish and that it's a cultural difference, i.e the eastern Europeans, African, Asians and Afro Caribbeans etc, who do so every month without a background glance, do so because it's normal in their cultures?

But we are talking about the average British person.

Right, if you're using 'average Brit' as code for 'white', then it's hardly a very useful tool for concluding things about the population is it? Since a significant proportion of Brits, even if not the majority, will currently behave the way the OP is suggesting they should because they have cause to, and the rest (including white Brits whose ancestors were born here) will not have cause to, a fact directly related to the fortunate socioeconomic circumstance historically & currently associated with having historical natal links to the territory we know as modern-day Britain. So there is no point in using that as a tool to conclude anything about the selfish nature of Britishness. If you are British and your situation demands it - you send money abroad. If you are British and your situation doesn't demand it - you don't. Simple.

Let me get this straight,

I am British living in Britain.
A family member decides to go and live somewhere else in the world, but it's expensive there so I am selfish if I don't send them money to support them?

Or are you talking about a family member who has never lived in Britain, in which case I would wonder how close a relationship you can possibly have?

I have a cousin that I have never met who lives in USA. If they were really really hard up would you expect me to help them out financially?

Am I a complete bitch for thinking no way?

What's with the "British/English" in your original post? Are you talking about English people or not?