It was my birthday recently.
It was a bit different from most years for me because I usually take my birthday off so I can do whatever I want for the day but this year dp and I both had to work so I agreed that we would go out for dinner after.
I had also said to him that since I knew he was a bit short on money until pay day that I didn't mind if he didn't get my birthday present until the end of the month.
The day comes and I get nothing at all. Not just no present, but no card, no flowers, not even a happy birthday really. We went out for dinner but he whined for ages because the only car park available at the time was really expensive.
I was really upset because he put no thought or effort into anything to make the day special for me. I didn't care that I didn't get a present. By contrast a family member sent me a parcel with a card and a wrapped up packet of sweets, and I was thrilled.
The next day after work he gave me an expensive present which he had obviously just got or picked up. It was something I needed (not desperately) which I had mentioned in passing but had said I would need to save for a new one.
Aibu to be grateful for the present but also to feel like it was an afterthought designed to placate me after he made no effort on the day. Or aib and ungrateful bitch?
PS: This is not a thread about whether or not adults should or want to make a big deal about celebrating their birthdays. I do want to.