WWYD with this friendship

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Hi all,

Will try to keep this brief, but basically just wanted some ideas on what you lot would do in this situation. Have a friend who I met through work some years ago, who basically, doesn't get on with a lot of people and can be quite difficult company at times but would also do anything for the friends that she does have, is just a bit socially awkward (she says this herself). The problem is more her OH, in a fair few peoples opinions, he is self obsessed, rude and obnoxious (has no interest in anyone else's life/interests etc and just interrupts conversations to talk about himself ). He also lies about things that have been said (we know this because he has done it to my DH and me). He treats my friend well, there is nothing to worry about in their relationship, they are very happy together.

Basically my DH don't really want to spend any time in his company any longer, it just isn't enjoyable but I would like to stay in touch and see my friend still. How would you go about not accepting or offering invites to them as a couple, but still see your friend without it causing problems or being obvious you don't want to see her husband, without causing upset?

Unless he's actually nasty/aggressive or hurts and upsets you, if it were me I would put up with him for my friend's sake. I am soft though, I know that.

Just do the “girls night out” thing.

DP and I used to go out with another couple all the time. I couldn’t stand her after a few years so I just slowly distanced myself from the “group”, just letting the three of them go out. It wasn’t too long before she distanced herself too, feeling like a bit of a third wheel (though my DP and her DP never meant to make her feel like that). I don’t know if your friend’s DP would eventually distance himself or just talk about himself even more though.

That's a hard one,but IMO for your GF sake try to put up with her DH if it won't work,just distance yourself

That's a hard one,but IMO for your GF sake try to put up with her DH if it won't work,just distance yourself

He hasn't been nasty or aggressive, but the making out I had said something I hadn't to my DH really pissed me off (thankfully it didn't cause any problems between my DH and I as he knows what he is like so didn't believe it), and then he did the same thing again by making out my friend had said something she hadn't (she told me the complete opposite of what he said). He is just not a nice person (we did think that maybe it was just us and the feeling was mutual, but having spoken to a few others (mutual friends) everybody seems to be of the same opinion). I don't think they have a lot of couple friends either, so makes it harder for us to also step away.... but we just can't bare to be in his company. I just don't want to upset my friend!

She doesn't really do 'girls nights out' unfortunately, otherwise that would be a good suggestion! He would probably still talk about himself, as it seems as though he has to try and prove how wonderful he isn't is!