My sister and I have (at least I assumed) been rather close to one another.
This week she is getting married, and I have not been invited. Her claim is that she wanted a small wedding which consisted of my mother and father and nan and grandad on her side, and her fiance's mother, sister and possibly father.
I was not told that this was her plan - I assumed I was invited - but was told by MY MOTHER that my brother and I weren't invited.
So, I have to actively ask whether there's a spot open for me to attend the wedding dinner as I was hurt I wasn't invited, and I personally don't see why I couldn't have been. Sure, we've had issues in the past, but we always got over them.
I am allowed to the dinner.
And then my fiance's sister invites her and me to the birthday of her daughter. I haven't seen my future sister-in-law in two years and would like to get to know her better since she will be part of my family. I agree to go, the hotel is booked and so are the train tickets - I then remember that it falls on the day of my sister's dinner + wedding.
I let my sister know that I double booked by accident and promise to pay whatever it costs to cancel my seat. She's upset because I'd rather go to the place where I was invited to rather than to where I had to invite myself. (At least thats how I see it)
Did I do something wrong? I feel a bit guilty, but I'm more annoyed that she doesn't seem to think I was hurt that a) I was not invited b) even more hurt that she didn't tell me and c) I had to invite myself to the wedding reception.
The way I look at it:
I'm canceling my appearance at a thing I had to invite myself to which was celebrating what I wasn't invited to, in order to be at a place where I am actively wanted.
Any tips or insight I'm failing to notice would be appreciated! Thanks, all! :)