Is my best friend BU

[MummyRiceCake]

Hi all! Last night my DH and I went to my favourite restaurant - everybody in our circle of friends know that I eat quite a lot (DH is vegetarian and I am meat lover).
He then went on Facebook and posted something like "how someone can devour so much meat". One of his friends commented that he should rephrase that which he replied "you mean phrasing". Someone else commented "dipstick". My best friend read that and found a bit vulgar and somehow offensive as there's a sexual joke in it. She explained to me that phrasing has a sexual connotation which I didn't know (I'm from abroad). Now I am a little confused and wondering if she's right as I would not like my husband writing some dirty jokes about me on his social media.
Your opinion na would be really appreciated.

The use of the word “phrasing” is just a way of highlighting an unintended sexual innuendo.

Why not just discuss this with your DH though? Ask him whether his joke really was unintentional.

"Eating meat" can be a metaphor for oral sex, which is what your DH & friend on Facebook were probably joking about. Especially in the context of a married couple

AmazingPostVoices

Not really unintended as my husband wrote the word "phrasing"?

Sorry for hitting post too early! I was going to say that especially in the context of a married couple who had been out to a dinner where one of them did literally eat a lot of meat, I would normally assume that it's a harmless joke. It's sexual, but not the kind of thing that would usually be meant unkindly in my experience. Although it does all, of course, depend on context & how he meant it.

Eating meat = slang for blow job. Friend points this out by saying rephrase. Your DH acknowledges the innuendo by replying ‘phrasing’. Sounds like a conversation between two teenage boys but I don’t expect your DH meant to imply you’d given him the mother of all blow jobs, more likely his friend is a bit immature and quite vulgar. Phrasing usually means that the innuendo was unintentional FYI.

Yes but from what you say Mummy that was only after his friend pointed out the innuendo by saying “rephrase that”.

His first post is innocent enough on the face of it.

Unless you think your DH would really intentionally make a public joke about his wife and oral sex? That seems unlikely unless he’s quite horrible.

I would still suggest that the best thing to do is talk to you DH about it.

It’s not about you. Chill.

@restingbemusedface
You don’t sound cool just stupid.
The post is about OP

He wrote a post about eating, someone else turned it into an innuendo.
But he seems to have been criticising your eating habits which isn’t great.

I think it was a light joke shared on Facebook. Or does he put you down regularly either privately or in public? I assume not as your friend decided to respond wittily. I don’t think the original post was intentionally sexual.

Could someone explain why phrasing is sexual please?

Don't overthink this, move on .

He doesn't sound like he meant it.

"how someone can devour so much meat" - he was obviously referring to your dinner. His friend suggested he rephrase what he said as 'meat' can also be 'dick'.

Your husband understood why his friend suggested he rephrase what he wrote and wrote "phrasing" in his reply, which, according to the urban dictionary means 'An exclamation and/or warning given to another over the unintended sexual innuendo of an otherwise innocent phrase'.

It's like your friend brought to your husband attention that his comment could be taken a different why, and your husband acknowledge that by replying with "phrasing".

Seems totally innocent and I wouldn't worry about it OP.

*way, not why.

That's so interesting, I've never heard the word 'phrasing' used this way. Perhaps it hasn't reached Scotland yet!