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To think they should hire a venue?

24 replies

Maybellissimo · 16/07/2018 23:38

Neighbours are celebrating the wife’s 60th birthday this weekend. We live in a residential street in small 3 bed semis. They are having 80 guests round on Saturday night. How they are all going to fit in the house is absolutely beyond me. I popped round there today to borrow a teabag and she told me then. I wouldn’t have found out otherwise. My dh is a HCP and is on call over the weekend. I don’t understand why they couldn’t hire a venue if they are hosting that many people. The neighbour the other side is having chemotherapy so really it’s the last thing she needs.

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Slatternsdelight · 16/07/2018 23:40

Sounds like it's probably a one off though?

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Maybellissimo · 16/07/2018 23:43

Yes it’s a one off but it’s going to completely disrupt the night. I have the right to be able to sleep in my house without being disturbed by a ton of racket from 80 odd people next door. Surely they could have hired a Hall??

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buggedby · 16/07/2018 23:45

I think as a one off it's fine. People are allowed to have the odd bit of fun. A heads up would have been nice though

Slatternsdelight · 16/07/2018 23:47

Yeh parties are disruptive but....it's a one off Confused
They probably couldn't afford a venue-nobody actually wants 80 people in their house but you can hardly blame them for wanting to throw a party for a 60th birthday

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Maybellissimo · 16/07/2018 23:47

Yes buggedby a headsup would have been considerate. Dh is worried in case he has shit on call day on Sunday and won’t have had any sleep.

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BackforGood · 16/07/2018 23:49

Does sound like it is going to be a squash, but I agree with everyone else, that everyone is entitled to hold a 'one off' party every now and then.

Nicknacky · 16/07/2018 23:50

Isn’t this like the third thread where posters are complaining of parties and that venues should be hired?!

My neighbour had a party for 100, I was early shift the next day and it was fine.

And why are you so desperate for tea that you go to a neighbour?! I would just do without.

Fatted · 16/07/2018 23:54

If your partner is a shift/on call worker then surely he is used to being able to sleep when others are making noise?! I say this as a shift worker myself. Get a white noise app on your phone to drown out the noise. If it's one night, it's not going to cause that much of an issue surely?!

anothernameagain000 · 16/07/2018 23:56

Seriously a 60th on a Saturday night? Yabu

nibblingandbiting · 16/07/2018 23:56

Maybe they were going to tell you, just whilst you was there wanting a teabag they thought they would mention it then. It's not like they need your permission.

And this is really going to piss you off because you clearly haven't realised how they will fit everyone in the house. They won't. You forgot about the garden.

twinkle999 · 16/07/2018 23:58

Party pooper

Slatternsdelight · 17/07/2018 00:01

Is your DH really worried?? It's a 60th for gods sake-they're not going to be up till 5am rubbing mdma into their gums and listening to trap are they 🙄

Chill the fuck out and get some ear plugs.....and some teabags

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 17/07/2018 00:20

I popped round there today to borrow a teabag and she told me then

Borrow a teabag? I've never heard of this happening in real life before.

Did you return it later?

MustShowDH · 17/07/2018 00:24

If my neighbour was having their 60th, I'd pop round with a bottle of bubbly and a card and tell them I hoped they had a good night. I'd probably also park my car in the next street so there was more parking for their guests.

I used to work shifts and was more bothered by people doing DIY every weekend than any occasional party.

It's one night.

LooksBetterWithAFilter · 17/07/2018 00:28

My ex whinged about the neighbours teenage dc throwing a loud one off party when their parents were away for the night. I reminded him that one day we would have teenagers and that we had to let them get on with it.
They have as much right to throw a party every now and then as you do to sleep in your own house. I think we should sometimes be careful about complaining about these things because even if it doesn’t seem likely now one day it could be our party.

BunsOfAnarchy · 17/07/2018 00:28

Borrowed a teabag 😂

YABVVU for not taking it back to them!!

Monty27 · 17/07/2018 00:30

Borrow a teabag. Really? Confused

NoSquirrels · 17/07/2018 00:31

Blimey.

It’s a party for a 60th.

Are you offering to pay for hall hire as your gift? If not, you’re not allowed an opinion. Wish them well, get earplugs for your DP.

choppolata · 17/07/2018 00:32

You've not been invited to the party - is the real reason you are upset?

Icouldbehappy · 17/07/2018 01:08

I borrow teabags and dishwasher tablets from my neighbour all the time. She borrows washing powder and I take her over soup when I make it. We also give each other painkillers when one of us has run out. And lend each other money.
I love my neighbour Wink

RavenWings · 17/07/2018 01:12

It's a 60th, not a rave.
Yabu. Live and let live.

RedPill · 17/07/2018 01:16

Currently on my night shift. Barely got two hours sleep due to the heat. It's not the end of the world. Your hubby will be fine.

blaaake · 17/07/2018 01:34

80 people in a 3 bed semi ?! Jesus. Where will they all go?

runsmidgeOMG · 17/07/2018 06:02

Yanbu to think they probably should, simply down to logistics and their enjoyment with so many people BUT YABU to think they shouldn't have one off parties, she's given you a heads up (probably would have come over herself to say if it wasn't for the Afor mentioned teabag!)

If they're generally good neighbours I'd let them have their night with no fuss. :)

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