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AIBU?

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Or am I being over sensitive?

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DreamingOfSteak · 16/07/2018 20:09

My Gran passed away recently. It wasn't exactly sudden, we knew it was coming. However after an accident, it came a lot quicker than any of us were expecting.

She passed away on the Wednesday. We (close family) were there with her for her last breath.

I decided I should be okay for work on Sunday. It's the only day I work. But would need the following Sunday off as that was the day after her funeral and I knew I'd find it difficult.

So I went in to tell them this on the Thursday. They knew what had happened already, but when I came in nobody mentioned it. Then I explained about needing the Sunday off, "yeah that's fine".

We went to see Gran at the funeral home on the Saturday and I got very emotional. Realised wouldn't be able handle work next day (customer facing would have to be upbeat and chipper) so called to tell them. Was still very emotional on the phone. "Is it for the same thing as next week! Yeah that's fine, I'll let them know"

Basically AIBU to have expected someone to have at least said "sorry for your loss" ?

I've worked with these people for four years. One of them especially I would class as close friend. I work hard and I'm good at my job. But this makes me feel pretty worthless. Or am I just being a bit over sensitive?

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wellBeehivedWoman · 16/07/2018 20:13

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

This is a very raw time for you and I totally understand why you would want to be treated sensitively. It sounds like your colleague was a bit thoughtless. Put them from your mind and focus on love and support from your family ❤️

treaclesoda · 16/07/2018 20:16

I think people struggle to know what to say. Although having said that, it shouldn't be hard to string together a sentence along the lines of 'I'm sorry to hear about your gran'

treaclesoda · 16/07/2018 20:16

And on that note, I'm sorry to hear about your gran.

ReservoirDogs · 16/07/2018 20:16

Maybe she/he thought they were being sensitive by referring to it as the same thing and not actually mentioning her death. Maybe they didn't want to upset you again by specifically saying death.

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