Advice for non-parent

[Liverlass]

I don’t have children by choice but I have 6 nephews and nieces I adore.

My DB has twins and two children. The twins are middle children. I know things aren’t easy at home, I suspect DSIL has pnd and has had three almost back to back pregnancies.

One of the twins always gets distressed when it’s time to go home from a day out, visit, etc. He keeps asking if he can come and stay with us, or my DP or my other DB.

Is this something a lot of kids do? Is it just a phase?

Maybe your brother is asking for you to take one of the kids to give his wife a break I she has had three back to back pregnancy and suspected pnd, maybe he is trying to make it easier for her to get back to normally and in a routine, and maybe he feels she will cope easier if the family offers a little respite stay for the twin

It's normal, our DD1 kept doing this so we let her go to her aunts for a sleepover one night after a day out, she was apparently fine for the first hour then started crying wanting to come home and hasn't asked to again since!

I'd offer to have one or 2 of them for a sleepover and see what their parents think. They might not want them away overnight yet but equally it might be a much needed break for them!

Sorry, to clarify - It’s the twin who cries and keeps asking to stay with other people.

DB has a lot of support from DPIL and DP.

Most children don't want to go from a gun day out back to home where there are rules and sensibility.

Yes some children so this, th y don’t want the fun to end!

It may be that the child is tired and senses that going home with you or others will bring peace and quiet and sleep quicker than going home to a family where obviously it's going to be a noisy tea and bedtime routine.
My DGS did this a lot between the ages of 2 and 3. He stayed at mine at least once a week during that time as my DD understood. And probably appreciated the break!
Talk to your DB and offer to have the twins overnight.

My GC does it, with me and my Eldest, childfree DD. Then sometimes she later cries to go back home, as said, she just wanted the fun to continue, but wants Mum at bedtime.

It's down a child's personality.

Lots of children find transitions difficult, especially if they've had a nice day out. It might be the child especially likes days out with family as they get more attention which they don't at home with so many little ones. If you wanted to help perhaps you could take some of the kids sometimes to allow the parents one on one time with teach of the kids in turn?

Thank you all! I’m feeling reassured.

He seems so upset when he has to go home that I find it so sad. Bless him!

My DD often seems really upset when people leave/we leave somewhere. She will go from being sad to bouncing around again within a few seconds of leaving usually!