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Auditory problems - would this worry you?

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teethyteethteeth · 16/07/2018 01:56

You are talking to Person B. Person B talks about something they bought from Sainsburys, only they don't say Sainsburys, they say Tesco. You both only shop at Tesco occasionally, it is on the other side of town, and it shuts early today. You notice the mistake but don't query it.

A couple of hours later, Person B has to pop out to get milk. They announce they're going to Tesco. You say, 'Sainsburys right?' Person B says, 'that's what I said.' You tell them that they didn't, and you just wanted to make sure because Tesco is closed now. They are adamant they said Sainsburys and definitely wouldn't have said Tesco because that would make no sense. When you suggest they mispoke they insist you misheard.

This is forgotten until a few days later. Person B says 'The train is after seven.' You know they actually mean 'before seven' because you have seen the train times and want to check they don't miss it. So you ask, and again they are adamant they DID say 'before seven,' they definitely said it and you misheard it. But you didn't. Person B is not an asshole or a gaslighter. Neither are you. This has happened a lot lately.

Would you worry about the fact that you were mishearing words as different or opposite words? Would you worry that Person B is absolutely certain they're speaking correctly? Person B says they were very aware of their words, shaping those words, and the memory of saying them. You know exactly what you heard. Both you and Person B have good hearing, though you have mental health issues (anxiety and depression, which are sufficiently medicated).

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categed · 16/07/2018 01:59

Is this only happening with person b?

steff13 · 16/07/2018 02:03

I'd have the same question as above. If it's only happening with person B, my first thought would be that they're the one with the issue.

teethyteethteeth · 16/07/2018 02:04

Just Person B, yes. I've only spoken to a couple of other people on the phone since it started, and heard them fine it seemed. No issues with hearing or understanding TV or anything. Person B says no one else (at work etc) has mentioned anything similar when they talk.

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MsFrizzle · 16/07/2018 02:13

Is there anything else going on between you and Person B? Any reason they'd want to fuck with you like that?

It sounds like a them thing, though. Some people get embarrassed by slip ups and being corrected on them and insist they didn't say anything wrong, other people might not correct Person B and therefore it goes unnoticed.

steff13 · 16/07/2018 02:16

It wouldn't necessarily be a mental health issue, either. It could be something like dementia or Alzheimer's making them forget. When my mom had a brain tumor, one of the questions her neurologist asked me was if I'd ever noticed her saying the wrong thing.

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