To not understand how to cope with DS’s additional needs when I probably have the same issues?

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I’m at the end of my tether. My DS10 has Aspergers, ADHD, dyslexia and dyspraxia. As a result he suffers from tics, non-epileptic seizures, anxiety and massive mood swings. He is rude and sweary, liable to smash household items when he has lost his temper and is so horrible to me.

I was diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia last year. I haven’t had a test for autism but the signs are there.

I can’t cope with his negativity anymore. I don’t want to have to deal with it. I can’t deal with it. I am not in a place where I can choose my fights, I can put a smile on my face and gloss over what has just been said. I’m human too. I’m too tired. If he was my husband I would have left him by now.

I do have a DH but he feels the same as me. We have gone through the CAMHS route but the therapy we went through for a good year did not work for his issues.

I’m letting our child down. AIBU to put on my ear defenders, sing la la la really loudly and pretend nothing is happening? (Yes)

I’m about to go to bed (utterly drained this weekend thanks to my own issues and my DS in particular) but I am autistic and my 8 and 11 year olds are too. I will try and come back tomorrow to join the discussion, but for now I will just say you are definitely not alone in this struggle

Thank you Caliogisto

Hit’s, I’m just want to say I’m. Sorry you are going through this. If you can find an occupational therapist that specialises in this it could really help you all

What was the therapy?

My son likely has ADHD, both DP and I have ADHD and I’m dyslexic. It’s bloody hard sometimes. I’ll be watching this thread

You could be describing my eldest DC there. I feel like taking the other DC on holiday and leaving her with her Dad. I need a break.

She was an ‘occupational therapist’ that specialises in children and is very up to date in all the latest ways you can help.
She figured out all the reasons behind his behaviour in our case it was things like sensitivity to noise causing lack of concentration / fidgeting was due to poor core strength/ etc

Then she used a combination of lots of techniques and strategies to help. We did these at home because we were paying for it privately but some people go every week

It might be worth trying to get it on the nhs but it’s impossible around here...