To find sharing school reports on social media crass...

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Exactly as the title says, really.

I just don't get it.

A school report really isn't something for parents to take photos of and splash all over Facebook, or wherever. I find it pretty cringeworthy to see all these posts where parents are after reflected glory because of something that belongs to their child.

Or the flip side where parents are going off on one about something a teacher has written in confidence to them, and putting it all over social media.

Plus - I find it very intrusive and feel that the children may not want that information shared.

Anyone else find this awful?

To clarify: in each of the examples above, I posted a comment about their achievement. I didn't photograph their actual results / certificate.

I'd perhaps make a general comment about how proud I am of my children but I would never post photos/quotes from a school report. That, to me, is dreadful and lacking in respect for the privacy of both the child whose property that report is and the teacher/s that write it.

It also raises concerns to me (I'm a teacher myself) as to how much of my work has been shared on social media. I would not be at all happy if I saw snippets shared and I'd be asking my head to follow up with any parents who did this.

I've put a status not a picture saying how proud I am of my DD for doing so well. It's known by close friends and family she struggles at school and has done fantastically. I'm immensely proud of how well she's done and how lovely her teacher have said she is. She's had problems socially and they have wrote how lovely she is and caring and that she has come along and made a large group of friends. I'll post this, but I won't post how she's done better than others or an actual picture. She's done her best and I'm proud.

This annoyed me recently too, dd is y6 so Sats results were included with the report.
I think all but 4 of the classes test results were posted on social media either fb or instagram.

Fair enough if your child has a good report say that, I'm no stranger to a proud status, but actual results and details of teacher statements is too far.

I think it’s naff.

Along the same lines of posting pics of massive piles of presents for Christmas/birthday/Easter/random Thursday.

Or branding about your child’s perfect attendance which one mum I know constantly does. Last time it got a fair few comments from other parents about how it’s not up to the kids etc which I was glad for. Why make the 4 year old with regular hospital appointments feel like shit.

Yes I don't like it. A friend has just done it with both her dcs school reports. Tbh they were very generic. My dds said pretty much the same.

It's a personal thing for me, I don't want anyone to read my child's school report - and they aren't bad. They both got really good reports.

They got lots of praise from me and I told them how proud I was of them. That's enough for me. It's between me and my dcs. No need to brag. Especially when pretty much every other kid in the class will of got a very similar good report.

Why can’t parents just be proud of their kids without posting the evidence.

Plus it pisses me right off when certain parents post ‘oh Little Johnny got such a good report what a wonderful kid off to the sweet shop we go for a reward’ when I know that same kid has been on red at least twice a week for various hitting / ripping clothes / ripping bag / pushing over / hurting - all directed at my son.

breathes

Rosie342 that's different I think if a child has struggled with something and eventually succeeded then sharing about it clearly isn't showing off. (I didn't post but told loads of people when my DS finally learned to ride his bike about 6 months after everyone else in his class). I think it's the blatant showing off and lack of respect for privacy that is cringe worthy.

Is not some of this against GDPR, especially quoting teacher's words?

No, it’s not their personal data.
It’s the kids personal data.

That's exactly what I wondered. I'm sure it's against GDPR. Teachers would lose their jobs if we put photos up of letters from parents so how on earth is it ok for parents to post confidential school reports online? It really annoys me.

The 100% attendance thing also winds me up. Rewarding pure luck that a child is healthy and/or gets shoved into school even when they are sick ISN'T a good thing. All the children who are genuinely ill or have hospital appointments get so disheartened by the fact that they don't get some shitty certificate.

Plus parents are neither data controllers nor data processors.

Our school does a certificate and a gift for attendance, really annoys me

What slithy said, sheesh you'd think from this thread that all gossip had been outlawed!

YANBU. What next, posting a picture of your pay cheque?

It's all a bit mad.

Couldn't agree more OP. It's sad (and quite worrying) that absolutely NOTHING seems to be private anymore. I'm shocked at what some people actually post online. They don't seem to be the slightest bit aware of the consequences.

While we are discussing the annoying world of Facebook

I fucking hate hospital check ins
Even more so when accompanied by a picture

It’s as tedious and possibly more dangerous long term, than those deeply boring posts about meals, spa days and so on.

Just awful. Not fair on the teachers. Imagine when your kid is grown up and wants to get a job or if they end up in the public eye. All those reports will be dug out for anyone to see. If you want to brag about your kids just do it, plenty of people seem to manage without posting a copy of school report. I'm not sure who's interested except the grandparents and surely they can find out without facebook. If you want to celebrate your child's successes then tell them. I think most kids would rather have a treat and be rewarded by having your undivided attention for a rather than know you've spent that time bragging on facebook.

GDPR is a business to business thing
As far as I know, your everyday person has no requirement to protect data. They certainly have no business turnover which can be fined for not following GDPR.

That doesn’t mean I agree with the sharing of school reports. Our children’s privacy deserves to be protected as well.

Plus what if that makes someone else feel bad? I can be proud of my kids without posting results that may be better or worse than someone else’s.

Yanbu. Although I may have posted a photo of my ds1's special award for music certificate in the middle of my "summer 2018" facebook album.

I really dislike it, but I have also noticed that parents of super well behaved, academic children very rarely do. The people I know who do it most are either a) generally drama llamas on Fbook anyway, with a tendency to massively over share or b) from less affluent backgrounds/left school at 16 themselves. While I do roll my eyes a little at both, I don’t mind the second case as much as I can see the mum wants her children to succeed in areas she didn’t herself and is really proud of them.

I haven’t shown.ds his report as I don’t think he needs w read it never mind anyone e