Screaming kids

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I just want to pre disclose that I am ill (anxiety) and am probably a lot more sensitive that normal.

I also have sensory processing disorder so sounds and feelings can feel unbearable to me.

But aibu to think that constant screaming 9-6 from next door is unacceptable?

The kids (from what I see) are chucked outside at 9am and are out all day and in at 6. So far so acceptable. But they scream and scream and scream. And fight and bang things. It's not even excitable screams, it's fighting and screeching at each other.

I heard the mum go out earlier and tell them to calm down (they are small, 5 and 3) but it lasted 10 mins then they started up again. They even had I shit you not, a screaming competition. I could hear the older one going 'listen to this, see if you can do louder'.

I'm really anxious atm with the constant heat and feel like I can't go out much, so my house is kind of my sanctuary and with the heat I'm having to keep my windows open. So there's no escape from it really. They're at it all weekend and every night 3-6.

Elderly neighbour mentioned it to me the other day and asked if I would mind keeping DD a bit quieter as I was 'disturbing her dog' and I wanted to say it was driving me mad too but just said it wasn't DD. I don't think she knows the noisy neighbours though.

My AIBU is why do I feel guilty about saying something when it's the kids, when I would probably not think twice about complaining if it was loud music or a dog barking. It just feels so relentless.

The issue here isn’t the kids it’s you. I know it’s tough to hear but you really need to see a GP to control your anxiety better. Perhaps it’s time for stronger meds.

I really don't think a 5 and 3 year old should be left outside unsupervised all day.

I think it's a bit off to tell someone she needs stronger meds and should put up with constant screaming. That doesn't sound like ordinary noise to me.

Op doesn't need medicated. Next door needs to cop on. Small children are loud and annoying, yes, but outside all day having screaming competitions is excessive and very selfish.

Yanbu. That sort of noise would cause extreme distress for ds.

I can't believe the first response OP.
Children screaming is completely unnecessary and parents need to learn to have more control over their children to ensure that they keep their neighbours happy. If they learn it from a young age that excessive noise won't be tolerated, they will grow up to be respectful of those around them.
It'd drive me mad to hear screaming and I'm not sensitive to noise. Chatter and laughter and playing is a great thing but screaming? It's unnecessary.
OP, YANBU

Do you live next door to me OP? Our neighbours whose house backs onto ours have the noisiest children in existence and they just scream at each other all fucking day and don’t go to bed until it gets dark. The parents do nothing to try and encourage them to be quiet. I have to put subtitles on the telly in the evenings. I have no advice unfortunately, just solidarity!

I think a good point is that I don't think they are supervised . They are literally allowed to run wild all day.

Mum did go out yesterday for an hour but I looked out and she was asleep with her feet in the paddling pool on a deck chair. I mean, I wouldn't even let DD have access to a paddling pool alone.

I needed a lie down a few weeks ago in the afternoon and literally couldn't sleep with the window shut because of the screeching.

I know I am ill and sensitive but I just can't deal with it. I ended up taking 3 days off last week because the noise was so relentless. DD even commented on it while we were making a cake

Your neighbours don’t sound like they are particularly bothered about their kids impact on others so the likelihood of you saying anything having any kind of positive outcome is slim imo. You wouldn’t be making them aware of anything they don’t already know and are choosing not to address properly.
I would look at what you can do to make the situation more bearable. A fan maybe so you can close some windows? Some good headphones for the tv or music.
Obviously what should happen is that the parents control their kids or bring them inside but from what you’ve said I think it’s unlikely and I’d worry about them encouraging their kids to make even more noise because you’ve complained.

*took days off because I knew their house would be empty through the day and I would be able to get peace.

Yes you are right I don't think they particularly care about people (their garden is a mess and they use a noisy running machine in evenings which vibrates though the floor)

I know it's not my place but another thing that really gets me about them is that their kids are never clean. Probably because they're outside all day rolling about the garden ha ha! I think I'm just having a grumble now.

Children tend to be loud when playing outside but I would have been hammering at their door when I heard they were having a screaming competition!
Sadly the parents would not be able to hear me knocking!

Why oh why don't people expect their children to be considerate of neighbours. Go to the park if they want to scream their heads off. All they need to do is get them to keep the noise down or come inside.
YANBU

YANBU

I just think there's some sort of no-go area of complaint when it comes to kids being noisy. As if it's stifling them to ask them to be quiet outside. But if it was a dog no one would think twice.