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Aibu to want to be able to sit in my garden.

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jmh740 · 15/07/2018 15:29

Been busy all morning and I have an hour or so free now, I'd love to be able to sit in the garden and read but someone is having a party outside I can hear the music inside with the doors and windows closed, it's the same every weekend. I don't want complete silence but I don't want to listen to it over the sound of my own tv. We only moved 6months ago so this is our first summer and I'm really wishing we hadn't moved here now. Its the first time we've ever had a garden and I don't feel like we can enjoy it.

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/07/2018 15:32

I think YABU. Everyone wants to enjoy their gardens in this heat and are happy out there with music, barbecues, friends round, children playing, even being able to mow the lawn Shock

Noise from neighbours is part and parcel of having a garden.

BIWI · 15/07/2018 15:35

Sadly, unless you're prepared to live in isolation in the countryside, you're going to have to get used to this.

Today is an exciting day for sports fans - the Wimbledon final and the World Cup final, and as it's also lovely weather, people are bound to want to invite friends over to enjoy it.

YANBU to want to sit in your garden, but you are being a bit unreasonable to not do so, just because of some party noise!

Jaxhog · 15/07/2018 15:35

Headphones. Preferably noise cancelling ones. Either that or a very loud stereo in the garden, to play your fave tunes.

Why is that some people think they can make as much noise as they like, but are the first to complain when you do? Like their enjoyment is more important than yours!

Seriously though, just go and have a word. They may not realise it's annoying you.

AirForce0ne · 15/07/2018 15:42

They are rude CF if they are having a party every weekend. If people want to be loud, they should move in the middle of nowhere. If they decide to live near neighbours, they should behave accordingly

With neighbours like that, I would send my kids on their trampoline at 6am the following day, and every weekend after that. I would also have urgent early gardening to do. There's not much anyone can do if you start screaming at the top of your voice to your kids to be quiet and not wake up the neighbours please, but it guarantees to get them out of bed Grin

I don't know why some idiots think loud music is acceptable. Between parties and builders, some streets have not 1 day of peace and quiet.

maxthemartian · 15/07/2018 15:44

YANBU and it's sad that so many people seem to think that a complete lack of consideration for others is acceptable.

greendale17 · 15/07/2018 15:45

YANBU

They are rude CF if they are having a party every weekend.

^This

aibutonamechange · 15/07/2018 15:48

You need to mow your lawns and trim hedges at 6am. Then again at 8am. Then 10am.

Yanbu

BlankTimes · 15/07/2018 15:52

and are happy out there with music,

Why? Why do they have to impose their choice on everyone else?

No-one here plays music outside, it's bliss.

BrexitWife · 15/07/2018 16:02

Tbh I’m in two minds about it.

Music that is so loud you can still hear it very clearly with Windows and lors closes is very loud and for that it think it’s rude.

But in the other side, we are living somewhere where no one ever goes in their garden so I’ve often felt uncomfortable letting the dcs play or even us having our dinner outside because we are the only one to ever make ‘noise’ outside.
I would like to feel that making some Normal noise outside is ok too.

Jux · 15/07/2018 16:04

I think if it's that loud and it's every w/e then you can ask them. Knock on the door and explain nicely that it's so loud you can't hear your tv, and could they just turn it down ( a lot)?

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jmh740 · 15/07/2018 16:09

I don't mind some noise im not expecting 100% silence, my kids have been in and out of the garden playing with next door most of the weekend, I just wish they wouldn't play the music so loud, we've sat out in the garden some evenings and eaten and chatted around the table but we don't shout or swear. I got my oh a speaker for his birthday but we would be considerate of our neighbours if we used it outside. I'm expecting noise today obviously it's a big day for sports, but every weekend it's getting a bit much now.

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SanseL · 15/07/2018 16:15

I get where you're coming from about noise, the final days England were in the world cup the pub round the corner was blasting music (week days aswell) until 11pm each night, it was so loud and clear I thought it was some insensitive neighbour, then some concert to do with kew gardens or something 2 nights before were doing the same thing.. it's horrible.

I suggest telling them about it and if it doesn't stop being so loud to complain to the council as it's considered anti social behavior, unacceptable and an offense actually when being blasted.

I can understand people having a chat, laughing away, a radio in the distant background, a lawn mower etc but not bloody blasting music!

DontCallMeCharlotte · 15/07/2018 16:25

I am sitting in my garden trying and failing to doze because there's some woman a few gardens away with the most irritating and frequent laugh. It's been going on for hours. Nothing's that fucking funny.

CantankerousCamel · 15/07/2018 16:32

My neighbours sit outside every day playing utterly shit music on an even worse sound system every day

Can I reccommend a mini rig?

AcrossthePond55 · 15/07/2018 16:34

Horses for courses. I live in the country so get plenty of quiet as all we hear when we sit outside during the day are distant cows, sheep, and one noisy mule. When I visit my cousin in town and we sit out I hear people playing and picnicking in the nearby park and the sounds of music and people diving and swimming at the Town Pool. I love both scenarios.

totallywired · 15/07/2018 16:45

AcrossthePond55 hearing the sound of people chatting, kids playing, distant music is completely different to hearing music that is thunderously loud INSIDE your house every weekend.

Op we experienced the same when our new neighbours moved in, after we asked them to turn it down repeatedly weekend after weekend and their neighbours on the other side did the same they have toned it down a bit. It is so, so intrusive and selfish. Lots of families are out using their gardens in the weekend, the sounds of chatting and playing are fine, loud music is not.

Geekster1963 · 15/07/2018 16:53

I’m the same with neighbors music, I hate it when it’s all you can hear in the garden. To be fair they are fairly considerate with it and it’s always off by 10pm. The sounds of people chatting and kids playing, lawnmowers etc don’t bother me at all it’s just the music I hate.

AcrossthePond55 · 15/07/2018 16:56

The park and pool are directly behind cousin's house totally, separated only by a small flood channel and a narrow dirt path. It's pretty loud. But I will add that the pool doesn't open until 10 and shuts down around 6 pm in the summer so the mornings and evenings are quiet. And that the music they usually play is music we like. That does make it easier to live with.

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 15/07/2018 16:56

YANBU. I think people in the UK feel they have a right to blast their music across the entire neighbourhood. Go out in your garden and have a BBQ by all means but you don't have to blast music all day.

Snickerdoodledandy · 15/07/2018 16:58

At least its not bonfires ir smoky bbqs which ruin yr washing and mean you have to close all yr windows. Yanbu though it's annoying every wkend.

NotSoRandom · 15/07/2018 17:38

They are scum. Noone should never be playing music outside unless they live far enough away that the neighbour's can't hear. Anything else is selfish. Who are they to dictate how you can use your house/garden.

CantankerousCamel · 15/07/2018 18:07

We only play music if it’s to cover up the noisy neighbours who constantly play shit tunes and shout abuse at each other. I could happily go without listening to music outside

onedayiwillmissthis · 15/07/2018 18:23

Agree. I listen with headphones while in the garden...I love my music but I wouldn't want to inflict it on other peeps who just want to enjoy some peace and quiet.

But there are times when I am sorely tempted to heave my big speakers outside and let rip...just to drown out the crap that some neighbours think is acceptable to play at full volume...for hours...and hours...grrrr.

And I often fantasize about shouting 'shut the f*ck up' at the top of my voice.

But I don't...cos its not naice...and where would it end?

CantankerousCamel · 15/07/2018 18:25

One

Headphones don’t work when it’s a family of you trying to enjoy each other’s company.

We put on something non-offensive like Moby or Fleetwood Mac and put the stereo as quiet as possible on their boundary so it just acts as a sound buffer.

blackbirdbluebottle · 15/07/2018 18:27

Put headphones on and listen to waves crashing against the shore or your favourite music, that’s what I do to drown out the sounds of the kids nearby

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