to feel so fricking lonely...

[purplelass]

It's my own fault. While everyone else was making big groups of girl friends I was having to wrap my life around narcissistic ExH and after I kicked him out a few years ago I don't have any friends to spend fun times with like everyone else seems to have.
I've got a boyfriend but we don't live in each others pockets and I've already spent lots of the weekend with him.
All my family & friends live too far away to just pop round, it all has to be organised and planned (which we do!)
I just don't know how to build a group of friends when everyone is already established in theirs.
I sound so needy and desperate but honestly that's how I feel...

I don't have anything particularly helpful to say. I hope others' advice is helpful.
But I wanted to say that you sound lovely, and I can just tell that you are going to make some lovely friends. I think the netball sounds ideal, as it immediately puts you as part of a team - or find a local cause that you can volunteer for that puts you working closely with like minded people.
I am struggling with self confidence after leaving an a abusive narcissist. Your determination despite not feeling confident is inspiring!!

Glad I made you smile op. I agree, narcissists should be made to wear a badge! The one positive I’m taking from this is that I will spot it earlier if it happens again. Don’t they just get right under your skin and start to subtely control you. I’m going to look at some of the advice you have had for myself. We need to get out there some how. Very best wishes to you op