AIBU- to have expected this

[Brokenstrings123]

I have a companion who I am particularly close too, we don’t socialise outside of work etc but as colleagues go they are important to me both as a confident and as someone who’s company I enjoy.

We had a slight falling out due to a “joke” being misinterpreted by me, they were very apologetic and wanted to buy flowers as a way to express their sorrow - I don’t enjoy receiving gifts and was happy enough with an apology.

However, they said they had written a card and they would forward it to me. (Summer holiday!) Its been a while now and no sign of the card, am I being unreasonable to have expected it by now ?
I am a very anxious person, so the fact it hasn’t turned up has made me think that I have done something wrong for the card not to be sent etc.

I'm sorry to hear this is making you anxious. When you say it's been a while, how long do you mean?

If it hasn't been sent, I very much doubt it's because you have done anything wrong. It will be that your colleague 'hasn't got round to it' or similar.

To be honest, this sounds like a weird situation..

You sound like quite a high maintenance friend, but your colleagues have accepted that. There could be any number of reasons about the card so I really wouldn’t make an issue of that when they’ve already gone out of their way to apologise about your misunderstanding.

I think you’re overthinking it, but that’s sodding anxiety for you 😢 I would just see it as the apology has been given and received without anymore fuss needed from their side. Maybe they’re picking up on the fact that you’re not a gestures sort of person and are just leaving it at that. Be kind to yourself xx

Not sure how I can sound high maintenance at all from that OP.
Saying that I don’t like receiving things, because I am socially awkward and don’t think grand gestures make apologies anymore sincere or feeling anxious because a card had not arrived?!

I was asking if I was unreasonable to feel put out because the card hadn’t arrived? Or to just accept that it’s probably been forgotten about by now.

I am not very good with things like this as it makes me overthink.