AIBU to charge the in laws? (Title edited by MNHQ)

[Realitea]

Dh and I are part of a group that have a specific ‘thing’ we do and get paid to do at parties and events etc. Dh’s brother has asked us to provide this thing at his event for his friends this summer.
Everyone in the group is being paid but dh assumed and told his brother that myself and dh wouldn’t charge as it’s family.
AIBU to expect to be paid aswell? I put in equal effort and it’s still my time I’m putting in.
I said this morning I actually do want to be paid like the others and he was quite upset and annoyed saying that he wouldn’t charge my family if it was the other way round.
He has now said however that I’m right and should be paid. It’s all left a bit of a sour taste now.

Yep I put the title as my name change. What a plonker

He should have at least asked you before he volunteered your services for free.
If its a group involved and you are doing mates rates for friends of relatives, you are going to be doing a lot of free gigs.

Sorry but 🤣🤣

Wouldn't they pay the lump sum to the whole group and they divide it? My brother is a musician and that's how he gets paid.
However my brother wouldn't charge me if I asked him to play at am event of mine. But if he brought his band of course the band members would need paying. So I think perhaps YABU.

Dontbesillyhenry - I know - it’s typical of me
Majesticwhine, it’s not my brother though it’s dh’s. Dh isn’t charging for his share but should I?

I did say he should’ve checked before assuming I wouldn’t need the money which I really do at the moment

I probably wouldn't charge as it's family, but if you want to, could you do mates rates? and yes, if it's bundled in like a band payment, could you just kind of sneak your payment in?

really want to know what you do! My mind is imagining acrobatics... I have absolutely no idea why.

How can you really need the money and your husband not need it?

Your husband should have asked you, but I see where he's coming from. I wouldn't charge family either.

How long will it take?

I wouldn't charge family for small things but would for big things.

Eg: dh is a builder. He has built walls for my brother, an oil house/small shed for my sister, a set of steps for his sister for free. But when his sister came to him with house plans he priced them in the same way he would price anyone else's house as that would take up all his time. The others were small jobs he could do in an evening or a Saturday.

Would you charge your own family?

I sell art and anytime anyone asks for mates rates I double the price- cos obviously you’d pay more to support a mate wouldn’t you 😂😂 but in all seriousness if you offered your services for free that’s fair enough- people can’t just presume though.

reallywant to know what you do! My mind is imagining acrobatics... I have absolutely no idea why.

My mind is a lot smuttier than yours

It’s under an hour and Anastasia you’re not far off actually! Maybe you’re psychic?
I need the money a lot because I’m in a small amount of debt that dh doesn’t know about! Dh really needs the money too but wouldn’t charge his own family. I would charge my family, we already pay my family member for his input to the business.
I think dh realises now he shouldn’t have presumed.

It’s absolutely up to you whether you charge. DH should not have offered your services for free.

It’s sounds like he’s come to his senses now though. It would have been much more professional for him to tell his brother “We can do your event, and I’ll do it for free as my gift, so it will be £x”.

😂😂😂😂