FSIL rude about baby eye gunk

[merlotmummy14]

My 15 week old DD has a bit of gunk around the corners of her eye and has had it for roughly a week now. Nothing severe and hasn't effected her eyesight or irritated her or her skin in any way. My mother (midwife), aunt (paediatric nurse) and cousin (infant paediatric nurse) all noticed it when I was up at theirs and said it was nothing to worry about and to just keep cleaning it with sterile water and some gauze. Have been doing so and glad to say it's nearly gone today. However yesterday I received multiple messages from both my FFIL and FSIL telling me I need to take her to the doctors and get her seen by a 'professional' because apparently my relatives (a collective 80 years nursing experience behind them) isn't good enough. My FSIL (who is early thirties, has no kids of her own, no childcare or medical experience, can't be in the same room when we change a dirty diaper without gagging and being a drama queen about it and spends the entire time shes with our DD taking selfies with her) said "The wee soul has had a minging eye for a week and it's oozing throughout the day". Just to clarify she's seen her twice while shes had it and usually sees her max once a week at my FPILs. AIBU to have taken offence to this? It might be a little unsightly but she's happy as larry and the doctors unlikely to prescribe any antibiotic treatment given I have history of allergic reactions to antibiotics. My other mum friends have also had the same things happen with their babies and it's all cleared up by itself within a few weeks. I just feel like telling her to mind her own business and stop making it out to me that I'm abusing the 'wee soul' by not taking her to the GP.

It's caused by blocked tear ducts. GPs massively overtreat with Chlorsig ointment or drops. It's not infection. Your relatives are correct and you're correct to tell her to DFOD.

can't be in the same room when we change a dirty diaper without gagging and being a drama queen about it

Maybe don’t change nappies in a room full of people then. Most people don’t like being in close proximity to other people’s excrements and body fluids.

To be fair she sounds overly concerned not critical.
My son got treated for 2 weeks with some sort of medication for conjunctivitis after he was born until my GP put a stop to it saying it. And it was common in babies narrow tear ducts treatment as you family have advised
On another note I call them Sleeping men and been taken the piss out of for years so thank you I had started to doubt myself lol
I am from Kent

Id have taken her to the GP tbh.

She's seen a midwife and two pediatric nurses. Probably more qualified than a gp on this sort of thing.

Maybe don’t change nappies in a room full of people then. Most people don’t like being in close proximity to other people’s excrements and body fluids.

Yes, OP. Hide yourself away forever in an extended confinement so as not to upset an adult who who couldn't possibly turn away from a newborn's dirty nappy.

Don't forget to all hide when breast feeding too- gah the bodily fluids!

And as eating and shitting is all babies do, all day long, maybe you can just disappear till it's 5 or so. Well as long as you have trained it to be quiet by then. If you haven't you can fuck off till it's 18.

Exactly 😄

Sleeping men
Gosh it's so normal op i get it myself and I am ancient
This is about the eyes cleaning themselves. There may be pollen issues.
Saline solution will do it. Salt and boiled cooled water will help.
Congratulations

My son had this and it went on for ages. As he was premature with other issues, my GP referred him for a specialist appointment at the local hospital. I am within a five minute walk and I got an early appointment as the admin team noticed how close I lived and rang on the day to fill a cancelled slot. The eye specialist said, 'Keep cleaning it, its a blocked tear duct, 99 percent of cases are gone before they reach one' He was right.

You have had advice from knowledgeable people. I would send FSIL a 'thanks for your concern but it's all in hand' What is it they say 'Everyone's an expert if they are kota critic'

Never heard of sleepy men; my mother used to say that the sandman had been when I woke up with “sand” in my eyes!

What are their professions? Perhaps you could turn this round to make them see how silly they’re being or are they just mega know it alls?

Where I come from we called it 'sleep in your eyes'

Worth a try with my ds1 he had this and I googled it. It was suggested to gently press under the eye into the corner. I did it and loads of gunk came out. It was beautiful! And the eye stopped oozing after that. Cleared the blockage.

You can just buy optrex for infected eyes at the chemist. It's the same stuff the GP used to prescribe. Salt and water will work but will take a lot longer.

The eyes aren't infected. It's a mechanical blockage. Seeing a doctor after a week makes no difference. Antibiotics don't clear it up quicker.

We call it ‘sleep’ here. My DS had this for about six months! Due to the tear duct. It was infected once and needed drops. Just ignore them!

Best advice you'll ever get !!!

When someone tells you you should do something just thank them and tell them it's a good idea. Then carry on as before.

Play classical music into their room - ' good point , thank you'

You've agreed , they feel important and the conversation stops. You do as you want hassle free.

It works. Just agree and carry on regardless.

Breastmilk just makes it worse. Cooled boiled water on cotton wool pad and regularly wipe once in one movement and throw away. If doesnt clear see gp for antibiotic drops. Very strange what she said but let it go as shes abit young by the sounds of it.

We called them sleeping soldiers when i was a kid.

That is rude of your SIL and FIL.

But my ds has this and did need some drops for it. I was bfing so I did put some breast milk in it a couple of times. But when we finally got him to the gp she said that was a bad idea as I would be introducing bacteria back into the eye. So I stopped that. She took a swab and sent it off while we did just sterile water for a bit. Swan came back and it was an infection, so we got some drops. Cleared it up in no time.

Actually, no we didnt. We called it sleep.
sleeping soldiers are the road bump speed limiters haha

Swab*

My little one had this two, thought it was conjunctivitis at first but the eye was sticky but not sticking together and it didn't look red/irritated enough for that. I just cleaned 3 X a day with boiled water and it was fine.
I'd just reply tell them you've been to the gp and they've said the same as your family.

My ds2 had gunky eyes until he was over 1 - the doctors/hv agreed there was nothing wrong, we just had to wait until his ducts popped open - that in some kids it took longer than others and only to come back if it got worse, or hadn't cleared by 18 months. First one cleared soon after he was 1, second one fairly soon after.

Apparently it's something to do with nasal bridges and you just wait for it to grow and pop the duct open properly (ds2 does have a flat face/nose compared to his brother)