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About sports day photo.

18 replies

Mummypigisalwaysright · 13/07/2018 20:44

Today was ds1 sports day. He has a friend in the same team as him (three teams in his class) this boy, will call him jay, has been to my house on a playdate and my son has been to his. I get on quite well with his mum, no issues between us. I respect her so much and she is lovely.

I am currently a SAHM until my ds2 starts school next September. Jays mum works and so can't always be at school during the day. I completely understand about this and am not that judgy sort of parent.

When the children finished their races we were allowed to go and see them, so i went over to my son who was sat next to jay. Jay was looking for his mum, but couldn't see her. He was a bit upset (not loads) and so i asked him if he wanted me to take and send a picture of him with his race stickers to his mum. He said yes, so I took a quick picture (of both him and my son with their arms around each other) and sent it via txt message with the words 'sports day!'

She hasn't replied to me and now im worried that i have done something really terrible. I have not, nor would ever share the picture on SM, it was sent to her and only her. I didn't think she would mind as we have been friendly in the past. Im worried it was inappropriate or that she might have thought I was being snide or judgy. I really wasn't, and had i not known the childs parent i would never have done it.

Wibu to take the pic? Does it sound like i was being judgy?

OP posts:

henpeckedinchief · 13/07/2018 20:47

I think that was a nice thing to do! I'm also hugely prone to overthinking things like this but I don't think you've done anything wrong. She probably just hasn't seen the message or isn't the type to always reply. Try not to worry about it

FlipFlopF · 13/07/2018 20:47

!!!!! totally don't worry about it! I expect the mum was super happy to receive the text, but if she's anything like me will simply have been too busy to reply straight away and will reply later! Unless she forgets! Really don't read anything into people taking their time (or not replying) in replying to texts!!

LaMainDeFatima · 13/07/2018 20:48

I think it’s a nice thing to do . Some people don’t reply to messages

Waitingonasmiley42 · 13/07/2018 20:48

That’s a lovely thing to do!

Halfblindbunny · 13/07/2018 20:49

I think you maybe written a nicer message to accompany the photo. A few mums have done this for me when I havent been able to get to events and I always appreciate it but it would normally come with a nice message such as "so and so did really great at Sports Day and wanted me to send you a photo, see you soon X"

troodiedoo · 13/07/2018 20:50

That was nice of you. My guess would be she will thank you in person.

3luckystars · 13/07/2018 20:51

She’s probably at work and will reply later. It was a nice thing to do.

RainySeptember · 13/07/2018 20:51

It was a nice thing to do and, assuming she received it, she's either (1) very upset that she couldn't attend Jay's sports day, (2) irrationally jealous that you were there, or (3) an impolite bit of an arse.

SugarIsAmazing · 13/07/2018 20:56

My son gad his sports day today and a special bbq and there were stalls and bouncy castles etc.
The children that didn't have a parent there weren't allowed on the activities as they had no money, so had to stay with their teacher whilst all the other children enjoyed themselves with their parents.

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Mummypigisalwaysright · 13/07/2018 20:58

Thanks all for the reassurance, i am so neurotic and prone to over thinking stuff. Ill catch her in the playground on Monday and just make sure she was ok with it. Im terrible at replying to txt messages, so i don't have any issues with people not replying usually!!

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southbucks77 · 13/07/2018 20:59

I work and can never make things like sports days, harvest festival, class assemblies. I love it when friends “what’s app” pictures and videos

southbucks77 · 13/07/2018 21:01

Pressed “post” too early.

I do sometimes look st the picture quickly at work and think to myself that I’ll send a detailed thank you later, by which point it’s slipped my mind. I’m sure that’s what happened. You did a nice thing.

WonderTweek · 13/07/2018 21:02

She might just be busy and will reply later. I used to be really good at replying to texts but then I had a kid and sometimes my replies take weeks. I thought it was a nice thing to do OP.

rosesandflowers1 · 13/07/2018 21:06

I often send pics/videos to other mums who can't make all the assemblies/days, they all send thank yous and appreciate it! Some ask in advance, it's nice to have the photos.

She's probably busy and will reply later xx

user1472334322 · 13/07/2018 21:09

I couldn't make ds1's sports day, but dp went. One of ds's friend's mums took a video and a pic of ds and sent them to me. I was really pleased to get them, especially since they came from a mum I don't know all that well. She said she'd taken them as she hadn't seen dp taking any (he had taken a video as it happened) and she was also trying out a new camera!!

I did reply straight away as she sent it after I'd finished work, but if she'd sent it earlier I probably wouldn't have. OP, don't worry, I'm sure she was pleased to have the picture. If you're really worrying about it, why not send text pp said about the fact her ds wanted you to send it. It was nice of you to do it.

category12 · 13/07/2018 21:21

Oh, I think "sports day!" might come off as if you thought she didn't know it was sports day or something. But it was a nice thing to do and probably overthinking it.

GrumpyInsomniac · 13/07/2018 21:56

A friend of mine has done that for me a couple of times when DS was at primary, and I was so glad she did. I always managed to get a message off eventually, but if I'd missed it it was usually all hell breaking loose. I think it was lovely of you to send her the picture.

comedycentral · 13/07/2018 22:03

Are you sure it's the right number? Could she have changed her number?

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