To be sad DH doesn’t want to start a family yet

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Since coming to the realisation that I want a child I can’t wait to start trying and see stuff everywhere like nurseries, clothes etc which trigger thoughts of what it would be like to be a mother.

DH says there is no hurry and we shouldn’t worry about it right now and is more concerned about me sorting my health out at the moment. I’ve recently had a hernia operation, have depression and anxiety, psoriasis and I’m very very overweight. I know he is worried about me and he is probably right but I’m a little sad I can’t start a family yet.

I suppose I just neede to vent. Sorry.

You both need to be in agreement about timing & starting a family
So disappointing as it is you can’t compel him to start cause you’re ready
Take the time to address your mental & physical health, it’ll help with any pg

I understand your disappointment but I think your dh is right, from what you've said you do seem to have some medical concerns without throwing pregnancy into the mix! Take time to focus on those.

I think he's right. Focus on getting your physical and mental health in a better place first.

I think your DP is right. Focus on your mental and physical health - see it as getting ready for pregnancy if that helps - and get yourself in a good place ready for being a mum.

Another one who agrees with him, sorry. Focus on getting your health better and reducing your weight for a while.

I agree with dh too. But set some time limits and acheivable goals. Sorting your diet may help everything. Where was your hernia? If abdominal then u really need to loose weight before getting pregnant or that will make the issue worse.