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Is this a bully behaviour or AIBU

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whatsup3000 · 13/07/2018 13:28

Never posted before but on MN every day (and some nights) posting here for some sanity check...
This lady at work, we report to the same boss and became quite good pals (I thought), time after time seeing manager and colleague I had the impression that she really disliked him as individual, manager etc felt very sorry for her and tried to listen when she needed a rant....fast forward 6 months and I dislike manager now too (same reasons but I tried to make my own mind first) and sometimes I had to have a rant myself...she cut me short few times, very abruptly and I was a bit surprised and frankly annoyed with myself as after all as she put it, she was busy and I was taking time from her!! So I toned it down and started to have my little rants with other colleagues who funnily enough were very very helpful and sweet so I kept getting closer to them despite being in different teams. So now this colleague after having asked me why I do not chat to her anymore (maybe 5 days)and me replying sorry I was busy, has taken me in dislike and openly being a nightmare (interrupting me when I talk in meetings, warned new coworkers about me etc.) I feel bullied and frankly scared I will at some point have enough and will decide to leave....AIBU and being a drama queen or is this a truly bullying behaviour? She is lovely to everyone else!

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nervousnails · 13/07/2018 13:44

Are you 10?

whatsup3000 · 13/07/2018 13:51

Actually I would really welcome useful comments but if you have nothing else to offer, then...no I am not 10 or 15 or for a fact 30

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 13/07/2018 13:54

Why do you think she's behaving like this now OP?

TheViceOfReason · 13/07/2018 13:54

You are being a drama queen.

Why on earth and you ranting to your colleagues about your manager?

I'm afraid you do sound very immature - just get on with your job and keep interactions with your colleagues breezy and impersonal. You are there to work not chat and socialise.

bluebellforest · 13/07/2018 13:55

Sorry, but you do sound very childish.

whatsup3000 · 13/07/2018 14:02

The ranting initially came from her to me, I was new. But she was right and slowly I learned on my skin how bad he can be. Other colleagues have offered invaluable help and support, going to work is now bearable but feel sorry to have sour relationship with a person I really liked and frankly taking the bully behaviour away still very much do, I think she felt I was preferring others to her but she was so short and unpleasant when it all happened that I was not impressed and it hurt hearing I was wasting her time, for the record I am in a professional job, long hours at tine pretty intense

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Possumfish · 13/07/2018 15:10

This does all sound very childish I'm afraid

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