AIBU to not buy 'teacher present'..

[mrspicklepants27]

..for teacher i genuinely believe has been completely useless, incompetent and has singled out my child.
The assistant has been wonderful but DS class teacher is ridiculous

I didnt buy a present for DS year 3 teacher as she was genuinely Incompetent, miserable and made no effort to hide the fact she couldn't wait to be rid of that particular class. I got one for their TA though, and felt no shame in handing it over in front of CT.

No YANBU. I didnt buy one for my dd teacher end of year 6 because of those reasons. Teacher got sacked anyway end of the year so that reinforced my decision.

Do or don't as you wish. The teacher will generally not be bothered.

All my other dc teachers got one though. This was the first time I have felt so strongly about a teacher enough not to buy them anything.

how does your child feel?

i wasn't keen on last years teacher but my child didn't mind them (he made no progress and it took her ages to deal with bullying, but he didn't know he made no progress and blamed the bullies for being bullied) so he wrote her card and got her a chocolate bar.

The other teachers all got a lovely comment from me and a nicer gift

I have never bought a 'teacher present'.

I don't get the whole buying the teacher a gift thing. Andy why only primary school teachers? they get paid, like the rest of us - its a job they have chosen to do. Unless one has gone out of the way for a child i don't get it.

YANBU, I have only ever bought a teacher a present once as she was genuinely a lovely person.

This years current year 6 teacher couldn't be bothered to do eff all when my eldest was treated like crap in year 6, so over my dead body would I buy that woman anything.

Do as you u see fit. Teacher won't notice. Too much unwanted end of term stuff.

I have never bought a teacher present either. And I'm on the 3rd DC going through school now.

I remember fondly the year when a parent of a child with ASC handed over a plant to the TA in front of me and told her that she was the only person who treated his son well, the rest of us were just old battleaxes and should be retire off. (I was 45). She immediately gave it to me and said that as I had been the one to make sure his son managed to learn, the one who calmed him down daily when he was out of control and getting kicked and punched as a result, the one who nurtured him, wiped his tears, helped change him when he soiled himself, taught him how to use a knife and fork, helped him make friends, fought his corner when SLT wanted to send him to a special school, and the one child whom I cried over at every little step he made then I was the one who deserved it.
I wanted to shove it up his arse!!!!
I don't expect gifts. Just an acknowledgement that I have done my best.

Bezm yeah right ok.

Myother, yes!
The look in his face was priceless. As if teachers really give a shit about presents off parents? I don't do the job so every once in a while a get a nice box of chocolate, I do it became I love it.
If parents feel so strongly about teachers, they should make their point in a more effective way by speaking to the Head. Oh, and when a teacher gets 'sacked', it is NEVER public knowledge. They may not have a temporary contract renewed, or may have got a job elsewhere. The only clue would be that they are no longer at the school in the middle of a term.

Buy wine for the school secretary/receptionist instead. They often get missed out.

I really don’t understand the present buying thing!

Teacher friends have told me they don't care about flowers, chocs and mugs etc, but if you are grateful and recognise exceptional help/relationship with your child what they love (and keep) is a personal letter of thanks.

Teacher got sacked anyway end of the year

As a pp said, you would not have known this. She left or didn’t have a temporary contract renewed. Teachers do not simply ‘get sacked’. The whole process of removing a teacher from post exists, but not in a form you would recognise as ‘getting sacked’.

I have never bought the teacher a present. If I appreciate a certain teacher I have called the head of the school and told him. I think this has gone way further in making the teacher feel appreciated.

With so many people who buy gifts for the teachers I feel it's a wasted effort. There's only so many mugs, picture frames and bottles of wine a teacher will have use for.

This year my daughter's teacher has been wonderful, so I'll get my daughter to write a letter with all the things she's enjoyed through the year etc.

I've never bought teachers presents, there's something so awkward about it all
I do cringe a bit when I see the obligatory FB pics from other parents with the various mugs/chocs & smug captions.

The teacher won't notice or care. Do as you want, but be aware you won't be making some spectacular point by doing so.

Teachers are not in it for the presents. Teach your child to be well mannered every day and that's a "present" for everyone they'll come into contact with at school or the year, from secretaries to cleaners to cooks, teaching staff, playground supervisers, and so on. Children tend to learn good manners by seeing them modelled at home.

We have always bought teacher presents except for one. She was really horrible, patronising to children and parents and didn't listen to anyone. I did ask my child if they wanted to buy a present for her as I would have reluctantly bought one if they wanted tobut they said no. I think only a few children did buy her something so that said a lot as class teachers are usually swamped with gifts. So no YANBU.

Another one here who has never bought a present for teachers. I don't understand it. They are well paid, and do not need gifts. I actually think it shouldn't be allowed as it is intended to curry favour.

I actually think it shouldn't be allowed as it is intended to curry favour.

I don't think you can really ban parents buying a present. Also not sure how an end of year present can 'curry favour'. Most children have a new teacher for the following school year.

I’m a teacher. I certainly don’t expect any presents. It’s jusy lovely to get a big thank you from your students.