Neighbour spying on me parking

[curtaintwitchers]

Aibu that this is over the top and unnecessary? Every evening when I come home or late at night if we go out somewhere my neighbour pulls up her blinds and stares at me out of her front window watching me park my car and then goes back in. We live on a terrace street so I park my car directly in front of hers and have to parallel park in if my other neighbour parks in front of me,I think she's concerned about me bumping her car whilst parking but it's really starting to make me feel uncomfortable. It's like she's listening for my car engine pulling up .

Her car isn't fancy or anything , just a normal family car.

Op...my car is a 14 yea old car but worth more to me than anyone lses car as i know its history. Id be vvv upset if anyone hurt him. Yabu. Sounds like you getting too close to her car.

If the op is not hitting the cars then surely she’s not getting too close
That does sound annoying, have you tried smiling and waving at her lots?

My car is also more precious to me than it might seem (nice car, but previous because it was left to me by a relation).

However, I can't imagine blatantly staring at someone like this. How rude!

Is it worth approaching her, to talk about it?

Oh come off it londonrach, it's a street. You don't like people parking near your precious car in a public space, then tough luck - don't park it on a street.

YANBU OP. Wave at her every time, see what she does. I hate people who do that sort of thing. It positively invites someone to hit their car, as it ups your stress levels.

Smile and wave, smile and wave!

I have a neighbour like this! He sits at his window and watches everything, it's quite disconcerting. I've found myself checking to see if he's there before putting the rubbish out etc

I agree with Sock, wave everytime she does it, she won't know what to do!

YANBU. It is very uncomfortable knowing you are being watched, and in my experience it makes me more likely to mess up the parking!

My upstairs neighbour is very similar, my OH says every time I go out the back to hang my washing he can hear her footsteps run to her kitchen window and then she just stands there watching me.

It drove me crazy at first but now I just pity her for having nothing better to do.

At the risk of anger is your parking atrocious? Does she have any reason to fear your car 😄

My neighbour does this. I wave and it makes her uncomfortable

I'd be tempted to don different things every day like a fake comedy moustache or a huge, silly hat to freak her out.

My daughters neighbour does this, best security system ever.

Nothing gets past him.

I would smile and wave, disconcerting yet polite.

Maybe she is lonely and cant get out much. Maybe she watches everything and its not just you.

That is odd! Next time knock on her door when you've done parking and ask her if everything is okay?

Her car is twice the size of mine so I think my car should fear her more! She has a husband and young children so I would have thought she would be preoccupied with more important things to do! My dd passed her test last year though and occasionally drives my car so maybe it is my dd that she has got her eye on, although she is a very careful driver!

I'd be tempted to don different things every day like a fake comedy moustache or a huge, silly hat to freak her out
Please do this. And post photos

To avoid any further stress in life over this, you should park up then go and ring your neighbour's bell and say, "Please don't watch me parking, it makes me nervous. I promise I will take very good care not to bump your car, but if I do then my insurance will cover it." Hopefully the shame of you confronting the fact that she's blatantly staring at you will stop her from doing it any more.

Let her stare. Don't be uncomfortable. She is doing nothing illegal. Rude, yes. But what can you do?

There always has to be one poster who finds a way to make the OP unreasonable. I don't think there's any way she could be, personally. But the other lady might be anxious about her car, and it is the downside of there being no off street parking. I've had my wing mirror taken out when parked on the road by the village green when on the school run. I can understand the anxiety.

I would just ignore her looking out of the window. Just keep doing what you're doing, be polite when you see her and her DC, but I wouldn't go out of your way to approach her.

We have a snoopy neighbour as well. I imagine he must have quite the crick in his neck from all the leaning out of windows to stare at what we're doing.

My children think he's quite the creep. DS has told me he was very creeped out to turn around to find him staring at him while he was in his own (our) garage getting on with putting away his sports stuff. And we've caught him staring into our garage as well when he thought we weren't outside. Thinking about taking legal advice at this point.

I have a neighbour who keeps a close eye on what everyone does. I was grateful for her recently when she witnessed a driver hitting my car and did a statement so we could claim on their insurance. I think I probably would find it a bit irritating if someone scrutinised my parking every day but people are allowed to look out of their own windows, so best to find a way to ignore them.

That is really odd. I mean, I really like my car. Its old and a bit scruffy but I'm quite attached to it. However i'm not precious about it and if someone bumped it whilst parking in the street, then they bump it whilst parking. Not something I'd get all upset about. Its very strange she watches you park. I think you just need to wave and smile every time until she stops doing that.

Or give it a wee tap at 0mph on her bumper on day and see what happens!

Look, if one day she'll be standing there with a notebook and a pen, you know what's going to happen next. Another parking thread on MN!

YANBU op.

However, some people have nothing better to do than worry about their parked cars. We have a neighbour who is unrelentingly possessive over what he apparently considers to be 'his' space on the street. Somewhat oddly, it is the space directly outside our house. He also has a garage, a driveway and an off-road parking space. He still likes to park a rarely driven 4WD in the space outside our house. We have none of the above, but fortunately with just one ageing banger to park, and having moved recently from a city centre street where parking restrictions prevented us parking at all, we are happy to park wherever there's a space. We recently managed to park outside our own house while he was on holiday and by coincidence had no cause to use our car for a week or so afterwards. I shit you not, when my DH did eventually get in and drive off somewhere, it took him less than 3 minutes to move his vehicle less than 20ft up the street to re-occupy the space, where it has remained ever since. He also stands outside on bin lorry day and supervises their passing, on the outside he is smiley cheerily but inside it is clear that he's doing that 'I've got my eye on you' gesture with two fingers...

Seriously, who does that? And more importantly, how is he going to cope when we get our front garden to driveway conversion later this year? Your neighbour sounds like s/he is a member of the same club. Park your car wherever you can at your convenience within legally permitted parameters and don't let this petty person and their curtain twitching occupy any headspace. Life is most seriously too short.