my DH keeps looking up his ex on social media

[HarryBlackberry]

Hi, I'm probably being unreasonable here, but things haven't seemed quite right between my DH and I recently. He's been quite secretive with his phone. I've never done this before, and feel really bad about it, but I searched his internet history and found he's been looking up his ex girlfriend all the time on FB. AIBU to be slightly hurt or is this normal behaviour?

Yeah, I might pull back a bit. I think he knows something's up as he's being super lovely. I'd say he's checking every other day for a few weeks. I know we all look up our exes once in a while for various reasons, but this is a bit much for me to be honest.

Good plan because he is just wondering about greener grass.

No harm to always be ready to leave though. Look up friendships you'd let slide.

Keep an eye on it. I never look up exes on socisland media, I've no need or interest to know what they're up to.

My ex reconnected with an old flame via FB, they were messaging for months then met up, and that was that. I threw him out but I wish I'd snooped as Id have kicked him to the kerb instead of wasting another year of my life thinking we had a future together. I heard on grapevine they're not very happy together. I couldn't care less, they can get on with it.

I'm not surprised FB is named in divorce cases. Too many people out there with childish grass is greener mentality. It's sly and unpleasant. Hope you get it all sorted OP.

It's all a bit bizarre and I do feel sick in my stomach. TiltedTowers I have recently joined Meetup so will continue with that. MDeeCee sorry this happened to you. Thing is I'm older and can no longer have children. He said he was fine with this in the beginning and we discussed it at length. However, all his friends are now having kids and I think it bothers him deep down. She is younger and was once pregnant by him. Maybe he's re-evaluating his life and thinks he could have kids with her. Who knows. I could drive myself mad thinking about the whys etc.

OP I hope he's honest with you about how he feels. It's shit when people play games. Forewarned is forearmed I guess and you can have a think about perhaps an alternative future. Stuff like this pulls the rug from under you.

I'm glad I found out when I did. Of course really upsetting at the time but I went on eventually to meet my lovely OH. I was 50 when we met (to my mind, too old for lurve 😁) after wasting previous 5 years with that idiot. 5 years later still very happy with OH.

Must admit couple things I found attractive is that OH is social and not into sitting on FB, and when we met it wasn't about texting, he'd pick up the phone and call.

Social media isn't bad per se it's just the way some use it. Have seen so many similar posts to yours on here. It's refreshing to be with someone who doesn't have or seek attachments to it. Doesn't guarantee a perfect life of course but I'd really rather not have the silliness of someone who's using FB to try to regain his old life or maybe candy box mentality, to deal with. I'm sure you don't want that either. If he's Mr Wrong let him go...there's a life to live out there
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Thank you Mistress. Sounds like you've finally found a keeper. I think social media isn't all it's cracked up to be a lot of the time. I will confront him if he keeps doing this as I'm not playing second fiddle to anyone.