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How "brave" is your OH?

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Areyouhavingalaugh · 11/07/2018 23:23

My DH has form for this one.
Currently on holiday in a rented cottage where bathroom is downstairs.

Him: Umm... can you come and have a look at this?
Me: What...?
Him: Umm... I think there's a mouse in the bathroom... either that or it's a big moth
Me: Well which is it? You know I don't do live mice...
Him: Not sure. So can you come and look?
(10yo DD appears from upstairs)
DD (ashen): What mouse?
Me: Dad thinks there's a mouse in the bathroom. Where exactly did you see it?
DH: Behind the bag of loo rolls.
Cue me, as per bloody usual, moving things and a small, brown furry torpedo shooting out of the bathroom and under the fridge.
DD: I don't like mice
Me: Go upstairs and close your door.
DD Off like a shot.
After much furniture shifting, broom rattling and torch waving about plus dog going demented, we finally decide that it's gone out of the door. Only time will tell, tomorrow morning could be interesting...

The last twice this happened we were at home and had our now sadly deceased cat. He caught them, played with them a little and then had presumably flattened them given the state they were in. He was found lying very proudly next to two rigor mortis mice by screaming DH . Guess who had the joy of removing the corpses...

My hero...

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jiskoot · 12/07/2018 00:15

Mine is great with bugs and will dispose of them outside for me, I'm not too bad with spiders etc but cannot handle daddy long legs! He is rubbish with other animals though, particlarly birds and has been known to take a massive diversion on foot to avoid any ducks or geese.

On one of our first dates in fact we found ourselves walking through a field of cows (and their calves), we realised it would be wise to make our exit once they started moving towards us and he actually hid behind me and let me get us out of the situation...haven't let him forget that to this day!

SleightOfMind · 12/07/2018 00:16

Better at dealing with scrabbly things because you’ve had Guinea pigs

PickAChew · 12/07/2018 00:17

DH is no more or less brave than I am.

Seren85 · 12/07/2018 00:19

DH is absolutely terrified of spiders and will scream for me to remove them or shut the door to the room until I get home. I dislike them but I'm happy enough to pop them outside. I'm terrified and sickened by slugs and we are plagued with them in the kitchen. I make him deal but since he works odd shifts someyimes I just have to do it. We were both quite attached to our house mouse. He was cute! We ignored him till he sodded off as neither of us could kill him and he outsmarted all humane traps.

Grobagsforever · 12/07/2018 00:20

Eh? Are men supposed to be 'braver' than us? What's the point of this thread? FFS

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 12/07/2018 00:24

On the whole DH and I are about the same level of bravery, although there is an insect that he gets the heebie-jeebies about because there's a version of it in his home country that gives a nasty bite, it might be an earwig.

We did once have a headless pigeon on our terrace (possibly dropped by a bird of prey, we never did quite figure it out) and he refused to go near it, so I had to pick it up and wrap it in newspaper and get rid of it. So he's definitely not as good with blood as me.

AjasLipstick · 12/07/2018 00:27

We live in Australia so creatures in the house are commonplace. DH once had to manhandle a small kangaroo out. We've also had possums, deadly spider and deadly snake.

Mice are like flies to us.

ReanimatedSGB · 12/07/2018 00:30

My co-parent (I don't do relationships but my co-parent ie DS' dad is a family member so I guess he will do for an example) is pretty brave. He's done some quite alarming stuff (in unsafe loocations/charity work/working with challenging or troubled people). He's into doing the right thing. This can also make him pretty fucking tiresome. Though both of us co-parents are stubborn, determined and convinced we are right.
No wonder DS, aged about 6, decided it was his job to tackle an aggressive drunk by running up to the person and yelling 'Stop that, it's naughty!'

Fuckthisforfun · 12/07/2018 00:34

DH is a big ginormous gun carrying police officer but ask him to deal with a spider/moth/any insect or small creature and he'd run over me to get out the way! He's absolutely useless. I have to step up and deal with whatever it is.

He's brave at work though and would step in and deal with other scary situations needing bravery (we both would) just don't ask him to deal with creepy crawleys

Daddynosharing · 12/07/2018 04:10

I don’t get this. Are you expecting him to be the hero and save you from these situations? My husband has some things he really can’t stand which I would deal with and vice versa. I don’t expect him to be any braver than me.

BoomBoomsCousin · 12/07/2018 04:22

My DH is OK with spiders, mice etc. but I'm the one who checks on strange noises or threatening situations. I can do the creepy crawlies, but I'm definitely more nervous about handling them than he is.

Our kids, however, are the wussiest people I've ever known.

hiyahen · 12/07/2018 04:59

Neither my DH or I have any issues dealing with tiny creatures but my DM once told me she was about 2 or 3 years into marriage before she realised that my DF was trapping spiders under glasses to 'show her' and then getting her to put them out of the house because he was scared of them 😂

ImogenTubbs · 12/07/2018 05:13

My DH deals with bugs for me. I will do it if I have to, but if he's there...

He is generally pretty brave and confident.

schoty77 · 12/07/2018 05:27

We don’t conform to 1950s gender stereotypes in my house, and don’t see any reason too. DH is far more sensitive/reserved than I am and it’s never been an issue. I wouldn’t want to raise my children in a house where I denigrate their father for not being “manly” enough. I don’t think it would affect them positively.

Candyflip · 12/07/2018 05:43

Almost as brave as me.

NotAgainYoda · 12/07/2018 05:53

Listen to yourself. Stereotyping. Great message you are sending to your children. I'd want to have a think about whether you think boys and men are allowed to experience certain emotions and if so, what effect that might have on them when they are struggling

OohOohMrPeevly · 12/07/2018 05:57

When we were on honeymoon we were snorkelling and I said to my husband "oh look there's a sea snake down here" and I put my face back in the water to have another look. When I emerged a few seconds later he was running up the beach.

Charolais · 12/07/2018 06:03

This evening a very large rattlesnake came out from under the gazebo where he must have been sheltering from the hot sun all day. We caught him and put him in a bucket for relocation. No one was scared.

The men around here are not scared of anything.

I couldn’t bring myself to reproduce with the wusses I’m reading about on this thread.

OneTitWonder · 12/07/2018 06:12

My DH has twice killed (deadly) Eastern brown snakes with a shovel near our house. So, as you can imagine, he's not too bothered by rodents or similar.

schoty77 · 12/07/2018 06:30

I couldn’t bring myself to reproduce with the wusses I’m reading about on this thread.

Yeesh you’re pleasant. Lucky for you they’re already taken.

THEsonofaBITCH · 12/07/2018 06:31

I would be considered brave by most (SAR specialist) but am terrified of spiders! DW is amazing, accepts my phobia and actually willing grew humans inside her and delivered them like a champ which would also be beyond me!

jarhead123 · 12/07/2018 06:46

Very brave.

He'd risk his life to save someone (selfishly this annoys me lol)

Nothing really phases him, mice, spiders, birds etc he'd sort out for us; if someone broke in during the night he'd be down there in a flash whilst telling me to stay upstairs.

Icequeen01 · 12/07/2018 07:37

My DH is petrified of live mice and birds (which sadly our cats present us with from time to time). I am always having to deal with them. Weird thing is DH is a retired DCI on a Major Crime Unit who has dealt with some awful things in his professional career and been is some dangerous situations but apparently a little mouse running around the house is way beyond his worst nightmare!!!!

KinkyAfro · 12/07/2018 07:59

I see the joy sucking dementors are out again, it's just a bit of fun ffs. Some people just look for things to get offended over. Lighten up

PeckhamPauline · 12/07/2018 08:07

DH once had to manhandle a small kangaroo out.

Love this!

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