To be a little bit hurt and wonder why..

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So I had DD back in December.. most of my friends came to visit within the first month, even one who now lives up North.

There is still one of my group of friends who hasn't met DD and I have no idea why!

We've all been friends since school, and whilst this particular friend and I would never really meet up one on one we still used to see each other in the group every few months.

She's declined the 3 group meet ups we've had so far this year, and ignored me when I tentatively said to let me know when she's free for a catch up.

She has in fact driven past my house several times to visit places then posted about it on Facebook.

The last time this happened I commented saying maybe next time she's in the area she could give me a call and we could catch up... No response.

She's met up with others in the group several times this year, and she seemed completely fine throughout the pregnancy so AIBU to be a little bit hurt and wonder what on earth is going on here?

It doesn't sound like it has changed that much. You didn't hand out just the two of you before you had a baby and you don't hang out just the two of you now. All that's happened is she has missed a few group meet ups which may have nothing at all to do with you.

We've all been friends since school, and whilst this particular friend and I would never really meet up one on one we still used to see each other in the group every few months.

Eh? You never met up 1:1 before you had a baby and now you’re feeling hurt and wondering why she’s not seen your baby or called in. You don’t sound like you were very close before so why would you redirect this to change now?

YABU to feel hurt as group dynamics and friendships change as you’ve discovered. She’s done nothing wrong.

Throughout the pregnancy she was much like the other girls, all about how she was going to be an auntie soon etc and couldn't wait to meet the baby.

If you only ever saw her in the group she was possibly joining in with everyone else saying this, but not really meaning it. It would look odd if she just sat there stony faced.

What I meant by the above post is that she was tryingto make the right noises but her heart might not have been in it as much as it seemed.