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AIBU?

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To ask to extend my DH birthday holiday from his parents?

10 replies

creamykayak · 11/07/2018 17:16

DH has a big birthday and has secretly been bought a trip to a city for 5 days by his parents. They’ve kindly paid for both of us. This is just one of his gifts from them.

I was going to take him away on a similar trip but somewhere relaxing like the beach. Time is very short this summer, and so the only chance to do it would be in the week before the said booked city trip. The flights are all booked and paid.

Would I be really unreasonable/cheeky if I offered to pay for a different flight out somewhere else then travel to the same city that they’ve booked the holiday to.

I feel this might come across as jumping on the bandwagon of their gift.

Another reason is that it seems pointless to fly home 5+ hours to just fly that direction again in 1/2 days. Plus I suppose it might save a bit of money on my behalf. Or I could even offer to pay for what would be wasted flights if I did ask.

I’ve been thinking about this too much, AIBU???

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Singlenotsingle · 11/07/2018 17:20

Not worth the risk of upsetting them. Do it some other time! The canaries are sunny almost all year round

FlyingDandelionSeed · 11/07/2018 17:21

That seems a bit off to me. Sorry.

MrsJayy · 11/07/2018 17:24

No don't do anything go on the city break and enjoy it faffi g about with their flights will make it look like the gift wasn't good enough.

spanishwife · 11/07/2018 17:26

I think just leave it - if you are agonising over it, then it's not worth the stress now or potentially upsetting him.

Do it next year!

AWomanIsAnAdultHumanFemale · 11/07/2018 17:28

Seems perfectly fine to me. You’re not asking them to pay the extra, you’re offering to pay for it, all you need them to do is change the flight details. Tbh, they should have checked with you anyway before booking flights! What if youd already booked your holiday!

soulrider · 11/07/2018 17:28

Sometimes, not taking the outbound flight forfeits the return flight so might not be as simple as just getting a new flight out.

PinkHeart5914 · 11/07/2018 17:28

That’s a gift they’ve got for your dh and I do think you will just look like your jumping on the bandwagon or you think there gift isn’t a good enough.

You are going on a lovely city trip paid for by his parents just enjoy it!

AuntyElle · 11/07/2018 17:29

I think it’s fine to ask. It would have been sensible of them to check it out with you first and then you could have conspired with them. But as they didn’t...

creamykayak · 11/07/2018 17:32

Right, yes sense prevails. Will try fit something else in/ go another time!

Sometimes if you think of something so much then you can’t figure out what’s right or wrong!

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MrsJayy · 11/07/2018 17:34

Just enjoy it and you can go away to the beach another time

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