Revealing Baby’s name to parents

[BlondeVolvo]

I’m alternating between being really furious and not giving a sh*t as I’m so hot!!

But anyhow heavily pg and DH has just let slip that he’s mentioned our 95% chosen baby name to his parents.

We had agreed that we were going to keep it under our hats until the arrival.

Partly because I’ve been so anxious due to previous experiences that I haven’t wanted to talk about it too much and secondly because people can’t help having a bloody opinion where children’s names are concerned - I didn’t want it influenced by anyone unless I chose to court their opinion, thirdly I wanted it to be special between us. Plus my FIL and MIL are very guilty in respect of the second with friend’s children and other relations - I actually think they’ve bitched about all of DH’s cousin’s children’s names.

The other facet to this is my DM is gutted I haven’t shared with her I can tell and I would have liked to have bounced some ideas off my closest friend, but out of behaving properly I thought that it wasn’t fair if we weren’t telling in laws or my Dad.

AIBU to be furious with DH, it feels like a bit of a betrayal altho that’s a tad dramatic.

Also I’m now worried that my FIL who can’t keep his trap shut and is a massive attention seeker will say something in front of my parents. My Mum would be really hurt if she thought we’d told them and not her. Should I tell my DM??

BTW DH is now backtracking and saying well I just mentioned it was an option. An option it’s been the only bloody option for months and months!! Sad thing is I’m now going off it a bit 😐

He's excited and let slip to his parents.

Not really a big deal imo.

They will find out eventually anyway and will be using baby's name for a very long time so this will all be a nothing before long.

Hope the heat lays off for the rest of your pregnancy, it must have been a nightmare these last few weeks

As it was only an option, throw in another few names as a red herring (some really wayout names!! lol). I'm assuming you know whether you're having a girl/boy. Nothing is certain until you see your baby, you may change your mind.

I know how you feel, my BF kept telling people our boys name (I kept telling him not to as people will give an opinion) and then after the birth said he’d gone off it due to peoples reaction (the main one being it’s a dogs name 🙄).

Luckily she was a girl and I dont think he’d mentioned that choice to anyone.

Decide to let it wash over you and why not just tell your mum and Dad that you aren’t asking their opinion but one of the main contenders is X

That way you don’t have to feel guilty about them not knowing or worrying that PIL will let slip and upset them

I think I would tell your mum. And then tell your DH that he needs to keep his mouth closed in future, he must take after his dad.

Tell your mum immediately. And don't let on the ils know. You won't care in a couple of months time.

He was excited and told his parents a possible name for his child.
You can do the same to your mum, or not.

Accidents happen and in 1 year, 10 years, 50 years will it be relevant? It's not worth stressing yourself out over.

@buzzlightyearsbumchin I feel like an old sloth and have red raw armpits - it’s a very glamorous stage 🤣!!

Thanks ladies I think I should defs tell DM. I can almost guarantee FIL will make it obvious they knew!!

Tbf DH doesn’t really get excited, he’s pretty measured and has a gd poker face, so I’m puzzled as to how he let it ‘slip’ thinking about it now I’d put money on FIL and MIL needling for info!

And exactly that @SPARKLYSTARSSHINENBRIGHT he might not look like a ... when he arrives that’s why I said 95%. Maybe I need a reserve!

@Perfectly1mperfect well normally he’s not like him - that is one of my biggest fears

BlondeVolvo Just read my message back, hope it didn't sound like I was being horrible saying your DH was like his dad. Should have worded it differently. . Hope everything goes well with the rest of your pregnancy. Exciting times.

When did pregnant women become so damn precious?

My DH told my DM my favourite baby name and she used it CONSTANTLY but put 'baby' in front of it... it really put me off even though I loved it

On Baby Name Drama!!! threads, when someone actually reveals the name in question, it always seems to be something deeply unremarkable like George or Sophie. Which are perfectly nice names, but hard to get excited about.

Like The Royal Family and baby David Wooya.

Exactly @GreatDuckCookery !

I quite like it