Neighbour has been harassing me for a year!?!

[Dazza284428]

Hello, a year ago I moved in to my own council property.
One Saturday afternoon I was standing on the landing having a smoke and a beer and I heard 2 girls from above say ooooh he's attractive.
I didn't think anything of it but when I went back in to my flat I heard my upstairs neighbor come out and pulled one of the girls in to his flat and was shouting at her for the whole weekend.
I think it was he's girlfriend as I'd heard them above a few times.
To cut a long story short, I assume they have now split up as I never hear her up there.
But for the last year my upstairs neighbor has been constantly harrsassing me, by shouting through the floor boards day and night calling me all sorts of names like C*, and that I'm old and ugly.
He even drops what I can only describe the sound of a bowling ball on the floor throughout the night.

Do you guys have any advice on what I should do?
I have applied for a transfer as it's too much for me to bare.
I didn't want to leave as I've already decorated but see no other option.
As I would like to go back to work but constantly being woken up through the night makes me tired during the day.
I've also called anti social and the police but they have been no help whatsoever.
So now I'm worried that I won't get a transfer and will have to live like this for the foreseeable future.

Regards

Anyone wanna chime in? I can't actually see this thread on my list anymore?!?

Do you have an housing committee you can talk to? Is it rented or do they own?

Have you tried recording all the noise the neighbour makes so you have evidence?

Have you asked them to stop?

You need to record the noise and the comments, speak to the council housing officer and start lodging formal complaints. You are entitled to live in peace and safety.

Yeah, I've even sent a recording to the anti social team.
She came round to the block and did a door knock on the surrounding flats but they said they couldn't hear any banging.
As for the shouting, I only have a phone to record on so it doesn't pick up the noise from the flat above.
Would a dictator recorder thing be more powerful to pick up faint shouting from the flat above?

ask the council for a noise recorder.

I didn't want to escalate the situation further as if it does kick off if I approach him them I don't wanna get kicked out of my flat.
I did put a note through his door stating that maybe we are misunderstanding eachother and that if he has any problems then he's more than welcome to come come down for a coffee and have a chat.
But he's continued harrsassing me still.
The anti social lady did stat that he is facing some complex challenges himself and that he has a mental health team working with him.
But does that give him a green light to continue harrsassing and abusing me?

I don’t think a dictaphone would pick up the noise from above - unless it’s really loud. They’re not that much better than a phone recorder, so I wouldn’t waste money on one.

no,he has no right to make your life hell.

as I suggest, escalate with the council and ask for a proper recorder. they have them.

Are you sure the comments are directed to you? Could he just be shouting random stuff? That doesn’t make it any easier to live with of course, just that if it’s not doing your self-esteem any good it might help to think he’s not directing it at you?

I would keep in contact with the anti-social lady.

you want to go back to work? Are you not at work because of this?

Thank you, I'll ask for a recorder.
No I'm not at work just yet, but definitely want to return.
But like I said it goes on through the night and I get woken up by him.
So hard to get a decent night's sleep then get up for work the next day.

Is this supported housing, do you both have health problems?

Haveyou thought about moving your bed, if there's room, so you are not so disturbed by the (unacceptable) noise?

No it's not supported housing, I was homeless for three years, staying at my mum's after me and my son's mum broke up and then the council housed me.
It's a studio flat, so no not able to move the bed as it will still be in the same room

That's a difficult one. Work with the authorities to try to get the noise stopped, but in the meantime try to minimise its effect on you. As simple as it sounds, put a radio on in the background. Even through the night, it can help to take the edge of things.

I do feel for you, I've had similar. In the end all I could do was move, the impact on my health was too great to stay. Is moving back to your mums an option?

Honestly, you really don't need sleep to work, many parents don't get a decent night's sleep and they do just fine. If you aren't so tired that you are sleeping through it then you aren't that tired are you? Just buy some ear plugs and get on with your life. If he works during the day you could consider looking for might shift jobs if you think that will help you get better sleep.

Sleep is important, lack of sleep affects your physical and mental health. You could try earplugs, you could get a part time job, or as pp said a night job.you could save money and privately rent instead. The council lady should not be discussing another tenants health issues, that is confidential.

Short term have you got good earplugs? Long term keep on at the council and anti-social people. Don't let them fob you off. Keep on saying he's making your life a misery.

I don't mean to sound unsympathetic, I really do know what it is like to live beside a neighbour who seems to be trying to make your life hell and it is not fun, but I don't really see how waking up during the night stops you going to work. I have had similar problems with neighbours which kept me up and then a health condition which meant I was up to the toilet up to 15 times a night and not going into work didn't cross my mind, I just needed to adapt and find ways round the problems ie getting a good pair of ear plugs, going to bed earlier (say 9pm) so you get a good bit of sleep before the trouble starts.