I'm in the wrong.

[patsy999]

My friends husband sent me a horrible text fishing for sex basically. Which i showed her because she asked me if i'd had any weird texts of him.
He then threatened to smash another friends face in as he wants her to himself and his jealous of her having friends.
I now feel bad as not long out of an abusive relationship myself and told her i would see her on my own but not with him as he now freaks me out.
She wont hear any wrong of him and said she thought i'd be better than that and shes getting him help. She also said that she cant be without him as she gets panic attacks.
But im still in recovery from my ex and am scared of this guy now.
Am i right in protecting myself.

Of course you should protect yourself. He sounds insane. Don't meet him, no matter what your friend says.

Nope, and well done for standing up for yourself. Here’s hoping your friend gains the strength and self-respect that you’ve gained soon.

Don't meet him and make it clear to your friend that even if this stops you seeing each other you will always be there for her to turn to if she needs you (sounds like she does).

Your friend is making a huge mistake here. I don't know how you would be able to make her see it, you might have to hang around for ages hearing all sorts of praise about him from your friend. We can all see the mistake she is making but it will take time for her to catch up.
Very stressful for you so take care of your own health and boundaries.

Can you all believe i had a welfare check from police last night i am fuming as this all happened Tuesday.
But she did me a favour as his going to tell her to leave me alone or shell get a restraining order.
This is because she wouldn't stop ringing me me all day and i blocked her on everything.

She harassed you then sent the police around? I hope you told them what she was doing and bloody him

Yes I have.

Very freaky behaviour and quite creepy. You have every right to protect yourself so please do. As teens, my best friend had an older, creepy partner who started stalking her and me (as I was her friend he felt spying on me would give him information on her whereabouts etc). It got very bad to the point where he found my home telephone number and started bombarding my mother with calls saying awful stuff about me. We are about 12 years on from those events now but he still crops up every now and then to say he’s “watching” her.

Also, I think you need to end the friendship based on what you’ve told us it’s not healthy and dangerous.

Thank you i ended it on Tuesday, hence i dont understand why she would send the police round to do a welfare check.

You're not in the wrong and this friendship is over. Do everything you need to protect yourself, including moving if you have to.

I agree with the other posters, put yourself and your own safety first, and if he harasses you keep logs to show the police, he sounds unhinged