Aibu to long for twins/triplets?

[MrsHoodwink]

Is this a “usual” occurrence? I often dream of having multiples and obviously the chances are slim and the reality of it very very difficult

But regardless of that and the fact it’s completely out of my control it’s one of the things I want most in my life

Just wondering if there’s only me feels this way? I have DD and DS already, there’s no gender preference/desire at all... no reason I can think as to why just can’t get my head round it

I'd love to have twins
2 babies from one Labour sounds fab but I always have to remind myself that it's double the work once they're born.
Once they're school age though I think it must get a bit easier

YANBU. I certainly didn’t long for multiples but my DTs are 10 now and just light my life up

i thought about twins when trying for dd3.
it was cos i really wanted 4 but couldnt imagine dh going again. and i had a big age gap and worried about no 3 being an only

I always had a feeling I would have twins, I then did indeed have identical girls. They are fab I love seeing the bond between them it’s different than my Singleton children.

I have twins and a singleton. Having twins is a very different experience to a single baby. It’s not uncommon for multiples to spend time in special care (the hardest thing I’ve ever been through). Also, pregnancy and labour are much more complicated. My twins are non identical so it’s much like having siblings who are in no way similar but from the same pregnancy. Having said all that, they have a lovely bond.
There are no other twins in my family. I came off the pill after many years and released more than one egg that month. It definitely ups your chances of twins if you’ve been taking the pill for a long time and if you’re older. Twins are fab but in all honesty I think having singletons is a bit more straightforward.

This woman did. It never happened though, and sadly, she died last year.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1230142/Pregnant-mother-13-says-I-having-babies-I-twins.html

I do too so I only have to be pregnant one more time and be done

YANBU, twins are fab.

Twin pregnancy is hard bloody work, two newborns was easier than being pregnant. Mine were ivf, so although I had two embryos put in, I never really expected twins, I thought I was being greedy hoping for one!

I don't think it's that unusual, was also my wish to get it done in one go.

I used to think this too, but I think the reality is very different to what you imagine. There were triplets in both my family and my husbands family's. One set were my nan's sisters none survived longer than a week, obviously we are talking 1930s ish here. My husband had triplet siblings, one died a week old, in the 1980s. They were very premature and they very nearly lost all 3 babies. We've also got a set of twins on each side of our families too, a happy ending for both there, but still multiple births are risky.

We are going to be trying for baby number 3 in the next 18 months or so and although we joke about knowing our luck we'll end up with twins, I actually genuinely think we will. It complicates things so much, I'd find a multiple pregnancy and birth stressful after 2 very simple and straightforward single pregnancies and births. I'm sure I'd love it once they arrived safely though if it happened, but I'm hoping it doesn't!

2 babies from one Labour sounds fab but I always have to remind myself that it's double the work once they're born.

Twin pregnancies are typically considerably higher risk than standard Singleton pregnancies.

My DH doesn’t my entire pregnancy terrified that something would happen to me or the babies. I was also pretty ill throughout.

Having two babies is also incredibly hard work. It’s more than double the work. If you haven’t done it you have no idea.

Saying that there no right thing to say about twins. People either say “twins what a nightmare (which is offensive in the face of your two gorgeous babies) or “I’d love to have twins” (at which point you want to scream at them how hard it is because you haven’t slept in months).

Being a twin Mum is wonderful but surviving that first two years was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. If I could choose for my daughter I’d choose for her to have one baby at a time.

Despite my chronically sleep deprived state I remember feeling terribly sorry for the other families in our NCT group that they only had one baby.

Not one of them ever said they were envious of me. One friend told me later that if she was ever feeling like she was having a hard day with her baby she’d pop by mine for a coffee to remind herself how easy she had it.

I'm sure some people have twin pregnancies that are a doddle, but ime it was very much harder than a singleton pregnancy, also, when we talk about two for one labour you do realise that they both don't pop out at the same time, don't you?

So, horrific labour (I'm sure it isn't always but, y'know) followed by 'pass us the forceps will ya, this one's completely stuck?' Followed by two hours more of pushing and trying to get the other one out, then "ah, pass us those bloody forceps again will ya?'
Then one extremely sore fanjo that never really stops being sore ever again.

Ahem. Sorry for the derail folks. OP may be you're having premonitions

Yes i missed out the bit where by twins had a rare form of twin to twin transfusion syndrome would have died if I hadn’t given birth prematurely . One twin had to have an op at three days old the other a blood transfusion and the spent three weeks in SCBU.

My not by.

Yanbu. I don't think twin pregnancy and birth need be harder than singleton. I was in better physical health with my DTs than with DD1. Kabul stressful but quick and painless.

Dts now 20w so in the midst of sleep deprivation hell but definitely not double the work, more like 1.5x I would say.

Mind you DD1.was a limpet baby and I had pnd with her. Definitely finding twins easier than my singleton.

But everyone is different! Twins are special and fab and I love having them.

That’s lovely to hear Johnnymcgrath, I think you’re right - everyone is different, twins are so lovely to watch and learn from, it really is a privilege. Saying that I also agree with a pp saying the first two years is hard. I had two singletons before my twins and my birth with the twins was horrendous in comparison, I genuinely thought I might die and leave four children without a mother and I know I couldn’t safely have any more children. The first year to 18 months I can barely remember getting through BUT it is so worth it to have two amazing little people in our lives. We sometimes shudder when discussing me being up in the night expressing while my husband fed them but they are amazing. I’m glad I got this opportunity but it wouldn’t suit everyone. We are really relaxed and very patient, which helps a lot.

I always wanted twins and was lucky enough to have them. I love it and feel very lucky. But it annoys me when people say it was 2 babies from one birth. I had to give birth twice. I had the dreaded combi birth as did a few at my twins club. 1 twin normal 1 twin crash section...stitches in all areas!!

I was huge as they weighed approx 7lb each and one ended up in SCBU due to birth complications. I also had to have further surgery due to massive PPH.

The expense of twins does hit you once they get older. I've done 2 x residential trips, 2 x school trips, 2 x prom, 2 x expensive high school uniform etc etc I have 5 DC but the costs coming exactly the same is very hard.