AIBU not to give wedding gift?

[JohnnyLisaMark]

I've been invited to a wedding as a +1. Don't know the couple, only met groom once in passing. I have to travel really far to get there and take a day off work, so it's costing me. The invitation says something like "having you all there is the greatest gift we could wish for but if you want you can donate towards our honeymoon". I have no active desire to donate towards their honeymoon, as I am struggling to pay off debts and already spent over £200 on train tickets and accommodation. Is it completely socially unacceptable to not give a donation? I feel like people would think I was a dick if I didn't, and I'd feel resentful if I did and then couldn't pay my credit card bill.

Can I just give them a card? Am I overthinking things?

You don't sound like you want to go, so don't!

as I am struggling to pay off debts and already spent over £200 on train tickets and accommodation.

why are you going ?

You go to some weird parties Sanguin . When I am invited to a party, yes I both eat and drink the food /beverage provided. I don't leave a tip or the cost of that which I have consumed .

Agree with all the others. The responsibility for the 'present' rests with the friend of the B&G - you are simply the +1 . The 'gift' would assume to be from both of you.

If this was your friends wedding and you had invited your partner as a +1 , would you expect him to be getting the card/money/present . ?

I can’t see why you're going?! You sound like it’s all a massive load of hassle that you resent.