... to be pretending to like things I don’t

[Blueskywhy]

NC for this. I'm finding it increasingly annoying to have to pretend that I like certain things that I really don’t... maybe it’s just the weather but I’ve spent a whole day at it!

• I don’t like my DS sports events, boring, but I have to bring him

• Sister staying for a few weeks while she works in the area ... I find it hard to spend too much time with her ( why oh why won’t she stay in a hotel) ... sitting down every evening with a bottle of wine

• DH work mates and partners coming around for the big match (DH will do the organising work for that though)

I need a holiday with some me time :)

I don’t like my DS sports events, boring, but I have to bring him
Sorry but I think that's part of being a parent. Does your DH take his turn doing this?

Sister staying for a few weeks while she works in the area ... I find it hard to spend too much time with her ( why oh why won’t she stay in a hotel) ... sitting down every evening with a bottle of wine
If you don't get on with her then surely she's hating it as much as you are? A few weeks is ages. You should've said it's not particularly convenient with work/school. You could have offered her a week at max. then she'd have had to make her own arrangements. I couldn't drink wine every night, I'd actually die. I've just had the ILs over for two days/one night and I felt like murdering them so god knows how you'll get on for weeks.

DH work mates and partners coming around for the big match (DH will do the organising work for that though)
If you're not interested and don't want them there then why are they coming? It's your home too, you should've just said no. One of the others can host it or they can fuck off to the pub.

Are you introverted by any chance. I dislike all that you listed above but that's because I cant handle people in large doses all the time. I need my space.

Can’t you plan something good to do while DH and mates are watching the football?

DS Sports - it's part of being a parent

Sister - gift her some nice bath bubbles and take yourself off to another part of the guest, it is also possible to say no to wine

Football- your DH is organising it and it's his home too, go out if you want, everywhere not showing football will be empty

*house not guest

I get it, I just about tolerate school plays and sports day, and if I have to do too many social events in a row I get twitchy. I like my peace and quiet! Is there any way you can get SIL to stay at a hotel instead? That might make the other stuff a bit more bearable.

I hate hate hate taking the DC swimming. Such a faff. But it's good for them and they love it so I pretend it's all fun and games. Such fun.

I am introverted...so that accounts for some things. I also don’t drink alcohol. I agree encouraging sports with kids is good, even if it means feigning interest.

DH is inviting his project team around, it’s something he does twice a year, and he’ll look after all that.

Anyway, I guess we all need to do things we don’t especially like or want from time to time...just feels like I have a long list of them recently

How’s it going, OP?