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Announcing that you are leaving Facebook

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bunnibearchi · 10/07/2018 10:27

Is just totally unnesisarry right? What's wrong with just going or not posting?

So many people are writing long essays about friends and who will go to their funerals, but it all seems just ridiculous to me. Go leave, but quietly.

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Sarahjconnor · 10/07/2018 10:34

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Tomatoesrock · 10/07/2018 10:34

I just shut mine down 2 years ago. I often wonder about distance friends and relatives that I would not have other contacts for, thinking maybe I should have said a quick goodbye.

Generally I hate the long winde speech to DCs on Bday, or death anniversaries on FB. I suspect it is all just for a like or love Grin

Subtlecheese · 10/07/2018 10:40

Isn't this what the passive aggressive "u ok hun" was invented for? You do see that sort of faux interest on those posts.

SlothSlothSloth · 10/07/2018 10:42

I find it so funny! The ones who write the longest essays about leaving are always back within days, as well. Then a few weeks later they do the same thing again.

Lana1234 · 10/07/2018 10:42

“2 many snakes out there hun” Grin

eyycarumba · 10/07/2018 10:50

I understand if you have lots of distant family/friends and it's a simple 'deactivating this, if you need me, contact me on ' but the 'I'M DELETING FACEBOOK, BYE' exit posts are cringeworthy and are just there to provoke 'u ok hun? inbox me xoxo' type responses. 80% of the time they never delete it anyway or are back on within the week.

Clandestino · 10/07/2018 10:55

An acquaintance of mine does this every now and then.
Normally lasts for about 4 days on average.
She is also known for publicly culling her "friends" list, as in: oh, today is the day when I'm cutting the ties with some of you so good-bye etc.
She has a large following as she's a former blogger who went to review books in newspapers and became a bit of a local celebrity. She believes her political views and cultural views are the best and her taste in books superior.
I just take her as she is and make fun of her "so farewell, dear friends" announcements. Her real life is rather restricted and most of her friends and acquaintances are virtual so she will never leave the platform that gives her the biggest following.

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bunnibearchi · 10/07/2018 11:05

Ugh yes the I'm culling people and telling everyone is cringe as well. Just delete people, they almost all won't notice or care.

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SlothSlothSloth · 10/07/2018 11:07

Oh yes Clandestino, the public friend culling is another favourite! “Don’t be offended if you don’t make it, it’s nothing personal” - as if anyone is really waiting with baited breath to see if some narcissist they met once at a party 10 years ago seems them worthy of continued virtual friendship

SlothSlothSloth · 10/07/2018 11:07

Deems

rosesandflowers1 · 10/07/2018 11:07

I don't know. I guess it makes sense to tell people that you won't be active anymore so they can unfollow if they want to, but more importantly so they know they have to contact you elsewhere.

I do find it funny when people state they're leaving every two weeks Grin

JustWantCake · 10/07/2018 11:08

I deleted FB and other SM a while ago and I did text my close friends and family about it just so they knew I wasn't contactable there or that I wouldn't be seeing events or posts by them so to remember to whatsapp me invites or cute pics of my nieces and nephews. So I can see the need to tell people but certainly not in a strange, self-obsessed long post on the SM platforms.

KellyBailey · 10/07/2018 11:08
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Announcing that you are leaving Facebook
kitkatsky · 10/07/2018 11:10

I've never had the guts to say this, but

"This isn't the departure lounge at Heathrow. You don't need to announce you're off"

AussieOzborn · 10/07/2018 11:13

It's very childish to sulkily announce your departure from FB. These egocentric pricks huff and puff and wait for a response but nobody cares.

JacquesHammer · 10/07/2018 11:15

Actually, I think it depends on the reason.

I have a friend who is suffering with a bereavement which has severely affected her mental health.

She did a brief “I’m not going to be on social media for a while, please don’t worry. You can contact me on X but I may not be in a position to reply immediately”.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 10/07/2018 11:15

Needy and attention seeking. Wants all the huns to ask " what's wrong babe ".

Mousefunky · 10/07/2018 11:31

Suppose some people do it so nobody thinks they have been blocked or whatever when the person suddenly disappears. It is kind of pathetic though and you’d surely have the number of people that actually mattered so could clear up where you’d gone directly to them.

PaduaPanda · 10/07/2018 11:32

It's a trend at the moment. I know half a dozen people who've done it.

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bunnibearchi · 10/07/2018 11:56

Do you think people that do it are demonstrating how much they are into the system?

I left FB maybe 5 years ago, I still check messages and log on on a desktop but don't share anything. My life is better for it

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liverbird10 · 10/07/2018 12:36

Flouncers.

ILoveMyDressingGown · 10/07/2018 12:45

It's like this video Grin

BunLovinCriminal · 10/07/2018 12:51

Haha @ILoveMyDressingGown I was just about to post that excellent video!

SlothSlothSloth · 10/07/2018 12:55

I have seen a few people posting big long posts on mumsnet about why they’re leaving too. This is even more ridiculous as on MN no one even knows who you are and it’s inconceivable that anyone would miss you!

gabsdot · 10/07/2018 13:06

Someone I know does this every once in a while to "Concentrate on my kids".
She always comes back