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What's the biggest challenge of your job?

91 replies

AjasLipstick · 10/07/2018 10:03

Mine is that there are long periods of time where I have nothing to do and nobody to talk to.

Also that it's in a lonely area and I get a bit freaked out sometimes. I work in an arts centre in rural Australia.

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hellokittymania · 10/07/2018 14:50

I started my own charity 12 years ago, when I was very very young. I have special needs and I wouldn’t have been able to get into this line of work and do what I do how do I not set it up myself. Especially since I work in Asia and Africa. I know of one other girl who has worked as a volunteer for VBS oh and I know of someone else who taught English, but there are very few of us Who work internationally in the NGO sector, even when the NGOs are dealing with people with disabilities. At least, when I first started there were very few of us. So one of the biggest challenges I face is finding other people who I can talk to about what stresses I have who would understand me very well. I sometimes feel like people don’t expect much out of me, or they try and do work for me that I could be doing myself if they just supported me a bit.

People always think fundraising is the hardest part, for me that definitely has not been true.

I’m used to having to work out very odd hours, and anyway, I have insomnia, so that part doesn’t bother me. Neither do a lot of other things that go on in this sector, I’ve become used to them now. But it still bothers me when I can do things perfectly well, and other people try and do the work for me. I get very very bored if I’m sitting still. We are currently working on for projects, one dental, to environmental and a community library, and another training for educators in mainstream on how to support students with special needs. I have known my colleague in Vietnam for eight years, and he still underestimates how good my Vietnamese us, or the fact that I know quite a few people Who would be good at the dental mission, and I can organize things myself… I absolutely hate being underestimated. I really do. Things do take time for me to learn, and sometimes, yes, I fail, but I never stop.

Grimtimes · 10/07/2018 15:01

The general public... and keeping them all happy with a smile without screaming blue murder
Those who order (tea-rooms) and chat to their friends for half an hour and then complain that their drink is cold. (we now check that they're happy with the temperature of it when delivering for certain customers)
Those who think they can ask for half a portion of anything ... er no... the cake is cut into 8 pieces. If you want half a piece buy the whole bit and take the rest home.
Those who think it's ok to bring their own food in and leave the mess for us to clear up
Those who ask to book a table for 5 and then come with 8 children on top and bring in balloons, decorations, presents and start to have a party ... but just order cake and coffee for 2 hours!
Those who bring in prams, car seats, changing bags and toys and surround themselves and their table ... so when you go to deliver what they've ordered you can't get near them and they just look at you while you stand balancing a tray with hot tea and coffee. I am good at the stand off now... I just stare...wait....and stare.... until they get the message to actually move stuff so I can deliver.
So sorry .... needed to vent... thank you

piefacedClique · 10/07/2018 16:11

The kids! Teaching would be a breeze without them!!! Especially in this weather!

DonkeyPunch88 · 10/07/2018 17:06

Getting attached to patients and having to watch them die. Grieving families are heartbreaking too.

The worst is elderly couples who have been married for 50, 60 years and then one of them passes away and the other is just so helpless without them.

MrStarkIDontFeelSoGood · 10/07/2018 17:12

At the moment it’s one particular person who is so difficult that I wish she’d just quit as she clearly hates the job

DilianaDilemma · 10/07/2018 17:16

Senior, overconfident male idiots, to be honest.

I could say high stakes, tight deadlines, managing people, being a bit scared every day because your one big fuck-up might end up causing financial losses that lead to dozens of people being made redundant, ...

I'm actually okay with all of that. I signed up for it and I knew that was what I would be expected to do. I'm also quite okay with junior idiots of either sex because I can handle them. We obviously don't have any senior female idiots as women have to be nothing short of stellar to make it in my industry.

Senior overconfident male idiots, though, were most definitely not part of the plan. If I ever end up in rehab, they'll be why. I spend a disproportionate amount of my time running damage control on them.

Haberpop · 10/07/2018 17:21

Watching the children decline and knowing that, one day, we won't be back to look after them.

Overthinkingagain · 10/07/2018 17:23

Two incompetent biddys, both think as they're past retirement age they don't need to keep up to date with current tech, the rest of the team are mostly great, these two are royal pains in the rears with the amount of support the rest of the team has to give them. 😤😤

halfwitpicker · 10/07/2018 17:26

Biting my tongue when I'm surrounded by morons, fuckwits and ignorant bastards. And that's just the management and supervisory teams.

^^

This really.

Just had one cupcake (with a PhD) who asked why they needed to put contact details on an expense report. Lost. For. Words.

GreenEyedBlonde · 10/07/2018 17:28

Sparklesocks - I like the idea of being a PA in a couple of years, I've been in admin and secretarial support for years at director level but I like the thought of just "looking after" one person and having them rely on me. Please may I ask you two questions?

  • is your boss nice to you and does he respect and appreciate you or does he take out all his frustrations on you?
  • how much do you earn? (Tell me to fuck off on that one if it's too personal)

xx

captainprincess · 10/07/2018 17:31

The general public.....I work in the NHS Grin

Fuckthisforfun · 10/07/2018 17:33

Staying professional when I'm threatened (threats of violence and rape are par for the course) my family are threatened (similar threats) or I'm physically assaulted. It's a very rare day that something like that doesn't happen and sadly On the days that it does happen nothing gets done about it unless it's a very serious assault.
Being hit, kicked, slapped, spat on are just all in a days work.
One of the many pitfalls of working with offenders.

Sallystyle · 10/07/2018 17:36

Seeing the damage the lack of MH services have done to people and also how some professional decisions have been detrimental to people's MH.

moomoogalicious · 10/07/2018 17:41

Another vote for people.

They seem to be getting more and more entitled and unreasonable Sad

Reallylosingitthistime · 10/07/2018 17:52

Pretending to give a shit about my manager's drivel of their personal life every time I need to ask a work question .... it drives me insane

BackforGood · 10/07/2018 17:59

Cutbacks.
Knowing that the services the families need either aren't there, or they have to wait months for an will then get a fraction of what they need.

Flucker · 10/07/2018 18:14

NHS here too. General public here too. They do call and ask the most ridiculous questions and I can't tell them to fuck off and not be so stupid

ittooshallpass · 10/07/2018 18:32

Senior overconfident male idiots drive me insane too. Talking to people like they are shit, belittling everyone around them. But even worse are the simpering women who laugh at their jokes.

Typhers · 10/07/2018 18:36

Coffee or tea 🤔

claracluck78 · 10/07/2018 18:37

The public

I'm an auctioneer and valuer. Sadly, we see lots of broken marriages/engagements and lots of inheritances or people just needing to make money quickly.

I hate having to explain that just because an engagement ring cost £10,000 when it was bought from a jeweller 2 years ago, it doesn't mean it's worth any where near that now. Or, how a gold wedding ring can be worth just the scrap value when it cost 5 x that new less than 12m ago.

I also hate having to explain that Great Granny's favourite chipped tea set may have lots of sentimental value but sadly in the open market a chipped teaset is usually worthless.

These are just the issues I have had to answer this afternoon.

LadyFidgetAndHerHandbag · 10/07/2018 18:44

Working in a white male dominated area and having to deal with all the white men who can't see their privilege or appreciate anything from anyone else's point of view.
On the plus side when you meet people who aren't like that you appreciate them so much more.

MeanTangerine · 10/07/2018 18:47

Managing the expectations of the people I work with / for. Tbh, a lot of the time their expectations are completely reasonable (a waiting list shorter than 9 months, or appointments available outside 9-5, for example) but we just do not have the money to do it. 'managing expectations' is a euphemism for telling someone that we know they/their loved one is suffering and that we are meant to be the ones helping, but we're not going to. Not anytime soon, any way.

Seeing people who we could've helped, if we'd seen them back when they first joined the waiting list, but in the mean time things have deteriorated, and now they will need to see a different service, who also have a fucking waiting list.

Fuck austerity.

easterholidays · 10/07/2018 18:49

For me it's the same now as it was when I entered the workforce: the universal expectation that the delivery date of a software development project can be accurately predicted, versus the universal truth that it can't. I'm sooooo tired of roadmaps and delivery milestones and go-live dates months in the future which are all, always, pure fantasy. It's like an industry-wide sickness with no cure.

B1rdonawire · 10/07/2018 18:57

Maintaining a "neutral HR face" as people over-share/go off on one about something tiny/ask for the moon on a stick. The things I know about our employees that I can never un-know...

blueangel1 · 10/07/2018 19:00

Not having enough work. I'm a freelancer and am constantly scrabbling around trying to earn a reasonable amount.