To think DD and DSIL didn't give DGS this middle name to honour me?

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DGS has been given the middle name Joseph. Joseph is my uncles name. They keep saying they gave him that name to honour me!!! Whenever any family or friends ask, they say oh we picked it to honour my mum's side. They could have used her dad's name, male version of my name, my dad's name, etc. I don't think they should have to do that and absolutely don't mind if I'm honoured or not, their baby, their choice, 100%, but to keep telling everyone it's in honour of me!!??

And this is why my kids first and middle names have bog all link to any family.

They say to honour my mum's side. They've picked a name from your side. I can't see the problem.

I can’t see the problem either op!

Take the stick out of your arse and cuddle your GS. If you must plot a nick name for him

They're planning to name next child after MIL or FiL and did this to placate you in advance?

Ask them why they didn't name DGD after his actual grandad, ie your husband. Oyour dad.

If it’s neither here nor there to you if you are ‘honoured’ why are you so annoyed about this?

Yes it is odd. But I hope your new grandson is lovely.

y mother used to do this in reverse with her grandchildren

"oh, she is Ava Mary - Mary after Great Aunt Maisie in America of course"

We'd laugh (it was actually Mary after her mother's middle name - that would be my mother's daughter's middle name :)).

If I were you I'd be tempted to tell your son you always hated uncle Joseph, he was a mean son of a bitch. But then my son would find that funny ...

They aren't saying they picked it to honour you. They're saying they picked it to honour your side of the family. Those are different things.

It sounds as though they wanted to use a middle name from your side of the family so they looked at all of them and picked one they liked.

I think the whole "to honour" thing is a bit odd -- my DC all have middle names from extended family but that was because I thought it was nice to have that connection and tie them into the family tree, so that when the DC look back over it in years to come they can see their own names echoed in previous generations. But horses for courses and if some parents see that as "honouring" a branch of the family then fair enough.