This is so sad for DH

[LadyRussell]

This is a bit of a rant tbh.

MIL is not very involved. We do not get on.

DH has a relationship with her. He drives up to his hometown, visits them etc. My relationship with SIL (who lives with MIL) has deteriorated over the years to the point that she has accused me of coming between her and DH. This is utter rubbish and the reason her relationship with DH has deteriorated is because she puts sod all effort in. Never phones, never visits, never bothers with DH children never sends a birthday card.

Today is his bday and neither his mum nor his sister have as most as sent a text or even written on his FB wall.

He sent them both flowers last year (I told him not to bother).

How the hell can you not wish your own child a happy Birthday?!

I couldn't get upset that people you aren't close to don't say happy birthday

Well I can understand why your DH would be upset. Horrible. YANBU

I just cannot understand why or how you can not say Happy Birthday to your own son.

I hate her.

Vile abusive people - stay well clear if you have any sense. If you DH has any morsel of sense he will cut these people out of his life

I wish he would

He’s had a huge go at them all.

This will be blamed on me.

I. Don’t. Care.

My DH gets nothing from family on his bday either.
I take the stance that me and DD are his family, we care and try to make birthdays and christmas extra special for him.
It's horrible isn't it, OP? How can they forget them?
My DH says he doesn't care but I know secretly he does and it makes the days somewhat bittersweet.
Hope he had a nice day with you.

I took him away for the weekend and we went with friends (from his home town).

His dad sends a card with some money (that’s not important). My parents do as do my DS and BIL.

His son didn’t bother either.

Pisses me off so much.

The money isn’t important sorry - his Dad also rang.

At least his dad remembered and you did something special and I am sure make him remember you love him every day.
My parents and wider family try to makexa fuss too.

Ignore them. They aren't worth it. Even if it easier said than done.

How did they react when he had a go at them?

I think his mum said fuck all and his sister gave a load of excuses saying she had had a stressful day getting some paving slabs for the garden.

His birthday has been on the same day in the same month for her whole life