To dream about a more exciting and unacheivable life? (Lighthearted)

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I am not unhappy with my life but I am quite bored at the moment. I am 28 and married with 2 kids
Sometimes I day dream that me and DH divorce and I get to go and have occasional full weekends to myself full of me time. Or that I have no responsibility and can jet off anywhere I like for a weekend abroad all on my own.

Sometimes I dream I can do simple things like go to the gym or out for drinks without having to think about 3 other people first.

Does anyone else do this or am I a bad person? I am currently plotting a never-going-to-happen weekend to New York all on my own.

The reality is I have to put my youngest to be now and then sit on here all night hoping something exciting will come along.

What's stopping you going off for a weekend? DH will cope with the children, won't he?

Read this book: How to do everything and be happy by Peter Jones.

Oh man! I totally get you. It’s just because family life, as wonderful as it can be, is often monotonous, challenging, and hard hard work. Coupled with broken sleep, constant demands from little people and partners, it’s no wonder that a break seems tempting. I totally hear you! And you’re most definitely not a horrid person for feeling like this!

Are you in the UK? I think a New York trip in a weekend would be a very big ask if so

I also second a weekend break.

I would sometimes feel a pang of jealousy towards my single mum sister, who regularly gets to have weekend to herself when her DD goes to her dad's. The reality of that though is that she's always skint and is constantly stressed with having to deal with the day to day tasks of life on her own - the grass isn't always greener basically! Could you come to some agreement with your partner whereby you can get some more "me" time? Happily married though I am, I would go BONKERS if I didn't have regular time to myself - when I was in your position I was almost catatonic, having time to pursue my interests within my marriage really helped!

I have a hobby I do once a week and see friends maybe every 4-6 weeks which involves being away for 24 hours. It's not like I don't get any time to myself it just isn't hugely exciting.

We are pretty skint so a weekend away abroad is out of the question. I am going to a festival in September so will be gone most of Saturday and Sunday. It's about as much time away from the kids I am getting any time soon due to finances.

Weirdly the dream that keeps me sane is changing to a job that pays half the salary . I conclude my life generally must be pretty good and that I do love my job but just need to know its not forever or I will implode!

BrownTurkey, Part of my problem is my job is not great but we cannot afford the paycut to a more fulfilling role of my choice.